The difference between low maintenance and low standards in relationships


Is it low maintenance or low standards?

The reason why him opening the door doesn’t make him special is because for a women who’s already set her standards high this is literally the least he could do therefore making it low maintenance. However if you didn’t set any high standards, a man doing mandatory acts like taking you on a date will seem like best thing ever of which in reality it’s just having low standards.

Is he going the extra mile?

At the beginning of any relationship, observation is everything. So assess how he treats other people in his life. Are you treated the same way he treats his boys or does he go the extra mile to see you happy? If the answer is no that should give you a clear picture of where you stand. The idea ‘less is more’ does  not apply to relationships and that shouldn’t be up for discussion.

Know what your standards

For  a women who’s also got a good thing going on for herself you won’t battle with deciding whether you’re asking too much from a man or not. Having someone in your life for the sake of it will have you lowering your standards for someone who isn’t worth it. Be in a relationship because one, your partner deserves you and knows you aren’t one to settle for mediocre and two because you aren’t afraid of being alone.

Assess your circle

The saying ‘queens recognises queens’ holds weight in the #BareMinimumTwitter  debate because at the end of it all we are who we hang around with. The company you keep will determine how you treat yourself and type of treatment you accept from others. Have a circle that holds themselves to a high standard that way they’re able to lift you up as well, resulting you in expecting the best and nothing less.

Is it your own doing?  

When you know your worth and what you deserve no  man can tell you otherwise. A text during the day is mandatory when two people are inlove and in a relationship. So if you celebrate or reward your partner each time he does this then you need to look in the mirror, you could be the reason you’re getting this type of treatment. Work on yourself and know what it is you’re bringing to the table, keep your standards high and a man that truly deserves you will successfully meet all of them.

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