Of the many epiphanies he's had during Lockdown, Dr Tumi says playing catch up with his sons – Bokamoso (12), Onalerena (six) and Khumoetlile (four) – tops his priorities list. These are some of the lifelong lessons he'll impart on them:
Biggest on my list is teaching them about God.
Christ is life, and if I can assure them of His love, then I would have done well as a parent.
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To believe in themselves and their gifts.
One of the things my wife, Kgaogelo Makweya, and I are conscious of is monitoring the boys’ passions. I’m not stuck on choosing a path for then, but I want them to be true to their talents. Through my own experience over the years, I learnt that when you’re living out your gifts, you don’t just become happy, but fulfilled as well. I want to teach them that passion is the biggest driver. I guess I’d like them to look at me as a case study and think: “Dad lived his best life, while pursuing his passions, but didn't compromise on his beliefs."
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To always be people-centred
I want my boys to have the heart to always help others because that will take them a long way — and make them do things for the right reasons. Giving, rather than always taking, makes us better people. I don’t want them to ever see other people as lesser human beings just because they are slightly more privileged than them.
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The naysayers aren't always right
I want them to go through life knowing that if they believe in something with all their hearts, then that’s all that matters.