RHODurban’s Annie on social media backlash - ‘It has taught me to be kinder in my honesty’

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The second season of Showmax’s popular reality show The Real Housewives of Durban (RHOD) kept viewers glued to their screens with all the fashion, fabulosity and drama that resulted in confrontations.

One cast member who found her name trending for all the wrong reasons after each episode is Annie Mthembu – who some viewers labeled as a 'mean girl'.

Speaking to TRUELOVE about this, Annie says that she is misunderstood.

“I think that there are things I can look at about myself and one of those things is my delivery and how I say things. Before the show I was a very quiet and introverted person that didn’t have to deal with a lot of people often, so being introduced to a new group of people that do not understand my personality, as well as the greater South Africa, they don’t get me,” she explains.

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“The people around me know that I’ll tell them something and because they understand me, they don’t take it personally or get offended. But, obviously, a new set of people would not see it in that way because they do not know who I am. But all of the social media backlash has taught me to work on my delivery and to just be a little kinder in my honesty because before I would just say this is how it is and this is how I am, but now I need to take people’s feelings into consideration,” she continues before revealing that she had lost sponsorships because of what people were saying about her.

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“Interestingly, the backlash has also caused me to lose some of the sponsorship deals that I had acquired after the first season. Season 1 actually brought me great opportunities but because of how people viewed me in Season 2, it was hard for people to work with me because they weren’t sure of the person I am. But my own businesses are still doing great. Annaesthetics is doing quite well and We Do Marketing is also doing great and there are new projects I’m working on,” she shares.

Annie tells us more about shooting Season 2 of RHOD, her concerns about Nonkanyiso 'LaConco' Conco and whether she’ll be returning in the third season.

How different was the experience of shooting Season 2 as compared to shooting Season 1 of the show?

In the second season I was definitely more comfortable since I’m a naturally introverted person. In season one I was kind of learning to deal with different people and different personalities, which I don’t often expose myself to. So, that was quite a learning experience for me and in Season Two I was a lot more comfortable and had a lot more fun.

What were some of your highlights from Season 2?

Definitely my Sun City trip, that takes the cake. I really enjoyed my experience there and I feel like people got to see a sense of what I do in terms of my day-to-day life of running an events managements business. That for me was a highlight.

What would you say were your lowest moments in the season?

A low moment would be the misinterpretation of what the queen (Nonku’s mother) said. I think the issue there was that I had already judged her based on the previous reunion and thought she came with a particular persona based on what I saw when she interacted with Ayanda (Ncwane) at the first reunion. I kind of carried that with me into the second season and when I formally met her I didn’t think she was a nice person and that’s where that misinterpretation of her statement came from.

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Why was it so important to you to know who LaConco really is?

It wasn’t really important for me to know who she’s dating but, I think for me, she kept giving us hints with the flowers coming to Jojo’s (Robinson) house and that was an introduction to Petal. That opens up questions naturally since she was no longer with the ex-president. For me, the lies that came with it triggered me to want to know who she really is. From Season 1, we don’t really know much about her and if this is someone I’ll be around, that’s uncomfortable for me. It wasn’t really about Petal but it was about the lies that came with the situation.

How do you deal with the negativity that comes from social media?

At the moment, I am getting immune to it because I’m trending every week for something that’s not very great but I do try to stay away from social media as much as I can, especially Twitter. I feel that people on there are always on a mode of attack and they always want to share their opinions. I can’t fight everybody in as much as I am a fighter naturally but I try to avoid Twitter as much as I can. I do peek here and there but won’t say anything.

During the reunion show, Sorisha mentioned that you were bullied in your childhood. Would you say this is why you have your guard up all the time?

Yes, that’s exactly what it is. I don’t trust people easily and I don’t want people to take advantage of me as well. So, I think I’m a very guarded person and that’s from my experience of being bullied as a child.

Will you be returning in Season 3, should the show get renewed?

Honestly, I’m not sure at this point. I feel like I’ve received so much backlash on social media and I believe in words manifesting, so when you have thousands of people saying horrible things about you continuously, some of those things end up manifesting in your life and it has created such a big spiritual battle for me that I don’t feel like it’s something I want to deal with in the future. After a few months, I’ll need to see how I’ll feel and then I’ll make a decision.

What does the rest of 2022 look like for Annie Mthembu?

It’s just a lot of hard work and working with new clients. I’m getting straight back to what I love, which is marketing and events and yeah, I’ll see everyone at the Durban July!

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