They say motherhood is a thankless job, but one that mothers excel at and don’t need a bonus for to enhance performance. Although an instinctive and beautiful experience, parenting is constantly filled with many challenges. In most cases, mothers feel they’re doing the best by putting on a brave face, even when things are falling apart, or worse, their energy is depleted. That’s because at the core, mothers want to raise well-mannered, independent and successful children who will make a meaningful contribution to society one day. But what they don’t know is that there’s a bigger price to pay for always putting others first, even their children.
Neglecting themselves can be detrimental to their own wellness and can slow down progress in other areas of their lives and in fact, affect the way in which they parent.
According to Tertia Carroll, director at Families South Africa (Famsa) in the West Rand, most moms overexert themselves without even realising it. She says that if you’re always feeling tired, frustrated and unable to cope, it indicates that you’re overexerting yourself. Other signs include feeling overwhelmed to a point that you cry or scream at your kids.