More couples are asking for cash instead of gifts on wedding registry – here’s how to do it the right way

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  • A survey has revealed that many couples now prefer cash over other gifts for their wedding celebrations.
  • However, asking for cash can be intimidating and may leave your guests feeling uncomfortable when not done properly.
  • One way to do this is by not including the request on your wedding invitation.


The spring and summer seasons are not only perfect for beach days and sundowners but, for most engaged couples, this is also the time to have their wedding ceremonies.

While weddings come with gifts, newlyweds often find themselves stuck with a number of duplicated gifts – which is why many are opting to put cash on their wedding registries.

According to a recent survey by Zelle, 84 percent of newlyweds say they prefer money over other gifts as a wedding gift. While this may be ideal for many, some guests may find this a bit cringe or even rude, which is why it’s important to ask wedding guests politely and in creative ways.

“As many couples have already set up home before they get married, asking for money as your gift list is now quite commonplace, but it must be handled carefully," wedding etiquette expert Jo Bryant tells Hitched UK.

"Being clear about where the money is going - you’ll be surprised how willing modern wedding guests are to make financial donations," she adds.

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Here are five etiquette-friendly ways to ask for cash instead of gifts for your wedding:

Separate the request from the wedding invitation 

According to Green Envelope, asking for money instead of gifts on your wedding invitation is a big no.

“This is a wedding etiquette faux pas as it can leave your guests feeling uncomfortable and take away focus from the wedding itself. They’re excited to celebrate your wedding day with you, and they’ll likely bring a gift without a reminder right from the start,” the website notes.

Use a cash registry website

Instead of a gift registry, rather have an online cash registry. There are different types of cash registries that can allow people to ask for cash for monetary gifts, honeymoon contributions and physical gifts all on one all-inclusive registry.

Be specific about what you’ll use the money for

Brides.com suggests that you should let your guests know where the money will go. For example, towards your honeymoon, a deposit on a bond or any other big purchase. Doing this, according to the website, helps your guests feel more connected to the two of you and your plans.

"Attaching a cash gift request to an actual goal helps gift-givers feel like their money will carry more meaning," personal finance expert Fornoosh Torabi explained to The Knot.

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Get family and friends to spread the word

Close family members and friends enjoy being included in the planning phases of the wedding, so why not get them to help out in spreading your cash gift wishes? They are also most likely who your guests will ask for ideas on what gifts to get, so make sure they are on the same page as you are.

Set up a box for cards at the wedding reception

Some people may have forgotten to get gifts at all or may not have had the time to get one so setting up a box where cash donations or cash cards can be dropped off during the wedding ceremony may be a great idea.

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