5 rules to follow for a great sex life


When it comes to issues of intimacy, couples tend to believe that there are no rules. Generally speaking there aren't any set in stone, however there are a few things you need to consider for a healthy sexual relationship. 

Ask for what you want

Unfortunately your partner won't know what you're unhappy about or what's not working if you don't spit it out. Honesty is the best policy and if you don't tell your partner he won't know. How many couples do you off that broke up due to bad sex? Probably plenty and that's because none of them ever spoke up. So, for your piece of mind learn to speak up, be it good or bad. 

It's a give and take

Don't ask for what you aren't ready to give. If you always go down on him and he doesn't then you're in a one sided relationship. This however is different for those who prefer to get straight to the main act without the foreplay. To avoid any awkwardness at a later stage get these issues out the way from the get go. 

Avoid starring 

Regardless of how sexy you might think you are, no-one wants to be starred at during sex.  A quick glimpse once in a while is okay, but starring can get rather uncomfortable and weird. Relationship expert April Davis confirms that as much as sex should be intimate you should limit your eye contact to 5 seconds in intervals. 

Some sounds would be appreciated

Unless you're in a compromising situation where you can't make noise, sounds enhance pleasure during intimacy. In one way or the other when both you and your partner are making sounds you're signaling to each other on the pleasure you're getting from the act. Being vocal during intimacy increases your chances of getting more of the good stuff so throw your shyness out the window when in bed. 

Don't use the back door without asking

If you haven't touched the 'anal topic' then it's best that you do before he does it without asking. Exploring is all good and well however anal sex isn't something that you just do without your partner's consent. This is because unlike other sex position, anal needs preparation and one needs to be totally ready before engaging in it. 

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