1. Make eye contact
Sex expert Susan Quilliam says that keeping eye contact when you go down on him connects you both instantly. “He’ll know that you’re thinking about him and that you want to give him maximum pleasure, instead of just going through the motions.”
The impact of eye contact is emotional – it’ll enhance his whole experience. “The fact that you’re looking at him makes him feel more secure and relaxed. He doesn’t have to worry about his performance or pleasing you, which means he’ll be even more aroused,” explains Quilliam.
2.Turn yourself on
Touching yourself in front of your man is incredibly sexy and will have a huge effect on him, says sex expert Dr Petra Boynton.
“Taking something private and making it public for his pleasure is a sure-fire way to impress and excite him,” Dr Boynton says. And, the best news is that it’s something you can easily practice on your own before showcasing it in the bedroom.
Research reveals that women who masturbate are the happiest as they’re able to guide their partner on how to get her to reach climax. You know exactly what gets you going. “Ask him if he wants to watch while you turn yourself on,” says Dr Boynton. “He won’t refuse your offer and even if it’s a few minutes, you’ll have his attention.”
Another bonus that’ll turn your man on is the free lesson on pleasure you’ll be giving him.
3. Treat every time like the first time
There are couples who’ve been together for years and are used to a routine. They usually kiss quickly and then move to their favourite position – missionary. “It’s interesting that a lot of sex advice advocates things that ‘spice up’ your sex life, which aims at introducing an element of surprise and uncertainty, which makes everything exciting,” explain authors of Enjoy Sex (How, When and If You Want To) Meg-John Barker and Justin Hancock, adding that you need to be present during sex.
Some of the things you could consider include changing location – why stick to the bed when you have a big couch or a spacious kitchen? – and send nudes while he’s at work to intensify the anticipation.
4. Make the move
According to Denise Knowles, a sex expert, couples who have the best sex are the ones that share what they’re thinking of with each other. “Mentally preparing before sex will help focus your mind so you’re not lying there thinking about the laundry,” says Knowles
How do we achieve that then? Knowles has the answer. “One way of getting yourself in the mood is to simply think about how sexy your man is, and how you like to be touched. Another technique is to work together: read something that turns both of you on.”
5. Challenge him
Get your man to use his tongue like a pen and ‘write’ a love letter on your clitoris, says sex expert Tracey Cox. “This will make sure he’s varying the movements and won’t over-stimulate one area.”
For extra oomph, ask him to whisper in your ear what he’s going to write before going down on you. Ask your man to wear a vibrating cock ring next time you have sex, says sex expert Emily Dubberley. “It keeps him harder for longer and will increase your chances of climaxing. Whether he’s on top or you are, the clitoral stimulation will drive you wild.”