Ayanda Borotho on how society's opinions about her body affected her: I hated being sexualised

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Ayanda Borotho shared her discomfort with being sexualised from an early age. Image via @ayandaborotho/ Instagram
Ayanda Borotho shared her discomfort with being sexualised from an early age. Image via @ayandaborotho/ Instagram

In an Instagram post, Ayanda Borotho opened up about how she hated her body from childhood, sharing; "I didn't like the 'African pear shape', and the hips and bums that I knew brought the kind of attention I didn't like. I hated being sexualised."

Like many other women, the actress had to deal with society's view that it was their bum and hips that attracted the men. Other people would tell her they wished they had smaller breasts like hers.

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"I wanted bigger breasts. So much so that I contemplated a boob job (nothing wrong with that). And then there were those who laughed that I had small breasts. Until I learnt a comeback that [goes]; 'at least after three babies they don't sag.. I still have virgin boobs.' BUT even that was nasty. It was, however, my defense mechanism," says Ayanda.

She does concede, however that after three babies, it was hard to love her body.

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"Cellulite, stretch marks... the works, but I realise now that what I hated was more the entitlement of opinions about my body from other people. Sometimes it doesn't take having children. It is the unkindness that the world spits out so that we can maintain a standard that they themselves can't," she shares.

"Getting to embrace your body is constant work. Today I just wanted to tell you; you're not alone. Sometimes, it's okay to feel like you're not enough. As long as you don't stay there too long."

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