Bisexual woman gets flirting advice after posting her viral tweet about finding dating women tricky

A woman tweets about the struggles of flirting with other women
A woman tweets about the struggles of flirting with other women

What's friendly vs flirty? Honestly, much of what takes place when people flirt is intentionally subtle and difficult to decode.

Nobody enjoys getting rejected.

Including @gilltheamazon or @_eleomar_ as she's known on Instagram who tweeted about a dating struggle, bisexual women experience and her followers couldn’t agree with her more. 

She says that a woman trying to flirt with another woman can get really tough because women are programmed to be polite to each other.

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In her tweet, she wrote:

“As a bisexual woman, I still cannot tell if another woman is flirting with me or just being nice."

Admitting that "on the same note I have no idea how to convey to a woman I’m not just being nice, I’m flirting with you. Like yes I think you are pretty and your shoes are hot but also kiss me?” 

She went on to explain that the reason she can’t tell if a woman is flirting with her is because, “It’s our culture to complement each other in bars, at parties literally everywhere,” she said.

And also noted that women are naturally kind to each other whereas heterosexual men don’t normally complement a woman’s earrings just for fun.

“I’m pansexual and I feel this on a core level ??”— @ThePeachyBot tweeted.

Another Twitter user agreed saying: "It's very frustrating being a girl and trying to flirt with other girls".

The post has been retweeted more 5 000 times and attracted around 23 000 likes, with an overwhelming number of comments.  

So how do you know if someone is flirting with you or just trying to make a new best friend?

Queer women shared their personal stories and tips.

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“One time I told a girl her eyes were pretty and she was like: thanks love! Your makeup is cute!’ and she walked away before I could ask for her number,” one Twitter user wrote. 

Another said: “Yep I feel you 110%... there is this cute girl I know and feel like there is something more behind the compliments we give each other, than the ones we give to other female friends. And I can see it in her eyes but I’m too scared of her being grossed out if I become more flirty".

Other bisexual, pansexual and lesbian women chimed in, and offered her advice on how to decode flirtation.

“In my experience, the eyes will tell you! There’s something about someone attracted to you, they’ll maintain eye contact a little bit longer than usual,” one comment read.

Another added, “I swear its eye contact. From a pansexual woman.”

While another said, “lolz yea I have a direct approach with women, I let them know I’m shooting my shot and so don’t wanna be friends”.

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One commenter advised her to be direct because she won't go anywhere by dropping hints.

According to  award-winning writer and TEDx speaker Jill Sherer Murray, who studies relationships and self-growth, the way the person steers the conversation will set the tone between friendliness and flirtatiousness.

“People who are flirting don’t limit their conversations to the weather,” she told Bustle.  

She explains that once the topic of sex, playfully enters the equation, it’s a clear crossing of the line from friendly to flirty.

"Sex rarely comes up in friendly conversation,” she says.

Are you bisexual and struggle to flirt with other women? We'd love to hear your story. Chat to us here.

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