Kehlani hasn't experienced 'positive love', but feels that each relationship has helped her grow

Kehlani. Photo by Jean Baptiste Lacroix/FilmMagic
Kehlani. Photo by Jean Baptiste Lacroix/FilmMagic

Kehlani says she feels "far away" from marriage because she hasn't had relationship role models in her life.

The 25-year-old singer is used to "baby daddies not being around" and "arguments and fights" in relationships that she found it hard to understand what love is. 

"I have one married couple in my family - my grandpa and his wife, and it's kind of a relationship that... still feels far away from me. I'm used to single mums. I'm used to baby daddies not being around," she shared in the May issue of Teen Vogue which comes on the back of her latest album release, 'It was Good Until it Wasn't'. 

"I'm used to arguments and fights and people not talking to each other and people having mass secrets. I'm not used to positive love, so it took me a long time to learn what positive love is," Kehlani added.

However, the 'Good Life' singer feels that each relationship has helped her grow. 

"Each relationship I went through I feel like I took a brick from it and put it into my house. If I did not learn those lessons, no matter how they were, I wouldn't be the person that I am right now," she revealed in her Teen Vogue cover story. 

It would be fitting then, to remind her fans of these words from the Intro (by Reyna Biddy) of her 2017 album 'SweetSexySavage': 

"My condolences to anyone who has ever lost me

And, to anyone who got lost in me

Or, to anyone who ever felt they took a loss with me

My apologies for the misunderstanding or the lack thereof..."

Compiled by Afika Jadezweni 

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