Where do you draw the line when it comes to saving money for your engagement and wedding?
A young woman took to Reddit to find out exactly that after her fiancé asked her if it would be okay if he proposed to her with a custom-made ring that was meant for his ex-girlfriend.
"Not really a bridezilla question, but wedding related. Hope this fits community rules! My boyfriend and I have always talked about getting married. Recently he asked if I was okay with him giving me an old engagement ring", she begins her post with.
She then goes on to to explain that her partner had planned to get married to his ex with whom he broke up three years ago after a four-year relationship. She also says that he had ordered a customised ring for his ex from overseas.
"So just a short background on the ring and our story: he and his ex had broken up about 3 years ago, and while he has dated girls between then and now, I was the first girl he saw a future with and wanted to marry.
So anyway, he and his ex were together for about 4 years and he had planned to propose to her, however the proposal did not happen because the girl had broken his heart again and again and he finally had enough.
Before that though, he had ordered a customised a ring from overseas for her," she writes in her post.
She then explains that she isn't exactly sure how much he had spent on this customised ring, but he had mentioned to her that it had cost him a few thousand dollars plus some money he had to pay to fly the ring over.
She also explains that she understands why her fiancé would ask her if the ring was okay because of how expensive it was. She also mentions that he had assured her that the ring was never actually worn by his ex.
The confused bride-to-be also lists a few other options she could consider like selling it for a new one or using the money to buy things for their new home instead.
"I do see the practicality of it. He already has a ring anyway, and it’ll go to waste if he doesn’t use it. We could save the money for the new ring and use it on other more important things like our house instead"
"I suggested that he sell the ring away, but he said that he had asked the jeweller before and he could only get a few hundred dollars back for it," she continues.
She then asks her fellow Reddit users whether or not she's being unreasonable for rejecting a ring that wasn't made with her in mind.
One user wrote, "That's gross, trying to give you a ring completely made for someone else. You'd look at that thing every day, and resent him for his cheapness." Another commented, "Why not sell it online instead for a reasonable price and buy a completely new, untainted ring? The difference in price is an acceptable loss if his fiancée is happy."
Some useful advice indeed.
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