Bride kicks cancer survivor off the bridal party after she refused to wear a wig

Sometimes brides become so insensitive
Sometimes brides become so insensitive

A disgruntled bridesmaid, well ex-bridesmaid took to popular community chat group Reddit to describe how she was kicked out of the wedding party by a bride after she had declined an offer to be bought a wig.

In the post, titled, "I think I was kicked off the bridal party for refusing to wear a wig", the young woman describes how excited she was to be a part of the wedding party after the bride herself had been the maid of honor at her wedding.

"I am very good friends with the bride to be, lets call her Karen for simplicity. She got engaged about 1.5 years ago and immediately asked me to be a bridesmaid which I was thrilled about (she was my maid of honor for context)", she wrote.

The ex-bridesmaid, who had cancer at time, then goes on to describe how she had to undergo radiation and chemotherapy which resulted in her losing her hair a few months after being asked to be a part of the wedding party.

Thereafter she explains how 'Karen', the bride, was a nurse and subsequently someone who understood what she was going through as a survivor of cancer, something which, the bridesmaid was very grateful for.

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"I have also been very active in the survivor community and have been involved in fund raising and public speaking. Karen has been super supportive through all of this," she says.

The bridesmaid then shares how pleasantly surprised she was when the bride invited her for a day out and a "special surprise" to celebrate her remission and end of chemo treatment.

After a lovely day at the spa, the now ex-bridesmaid and the bride went to the place where the special surprise was kept. Except to the bridesmaid, it was less of a surprise and more of an offense.

The bride had taken her to what she describes as an up-market wig shop.

"At the end of the day she takes me to a special hair salon which specialises in high quality wigs. I am a little taken aback by this because Karen knows that a lot of the work I have involves psychological treatment in cancer patients and avoiding the shame associated with hair loss for instance," she writes.

The bridesmaid stayed polite throughout the insensitive wig shop visit and even says that she had tried some of the wigs on.

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Thereafter, the bride asked her to pick one out, to which the bridesmaid politely declined. What she didn't expect however, was a call from the bride the next day saying that she could no longer be a part of the wedding because "the church minister had said six bridesmaids was too many for the wedding party".

"This completely floors me because basically I am her number two girl after her sister (who she barely gets a long with). I call around and although some of the other bridesmaids are reluctant to tell me anything hint at the fact that Karen was worried about how the pictures are going to look with someone with a bald head. I was so upset, I tried to call her but she did not respond," she concluded.

She did however say that she would not be attending the wedding and has also decided to end her friendship with the bride, something we, and hundreds of Reddit users agree is the best decision to make.

Here are some on reader comments.

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"Wow that’s horrendous! I hate the fact bridesmaids are to some extent, by some brides, treated like props for photographs rather than what they should be. Which is as far as I’m concerned the bride's closest, most important friends and loved ones, to stand with them in support of the bride."

"Congratulations on you remission. Focus on your self and what makes you happy. Don’t let her bring you down with her attitude. I’d definitely be considering not attending the wedding and ending the friendship because she’s just being horrible and treating people like props," wrote one concerned and supportive reader.

While this person said, "If the bride were a true friend, she would be proud that you are a survivor and also proud to have you in her wedding as you are, sans wig. This infuriates me...I would be so hurt, but I would also consider it a lesson learned."

And we could not agree more.

Do you think this bride was being unreasonable or not? Do you have any bad experiences as a bridal party member?

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