Married 10 years: 'Our bridal party wore outfits from Mr Price and made their dresses, it was perfect'

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Jenny-Lynn Malcolm and Dudely Malcolm.  Image provided
Jenny-Lynn Malcolm and Dudely Malcolm. Image provided

  • In 2008 I tried desperately to commit suicide as I thought I would never have children.
  • Almost two years later, I met Dudley. We fell in love and got married within four months of dating.
  • Our wedding was quick, quirky and absolutely beautiful.
  • It's over ten years later, and we are still happily married with two beautiful children.

I made the suicide attempt while camping at Baviaanskloof after being told I couldn't have kids by a gyne. I took every pill I could from my mother's house and mine. I thought that since I was far away from hospitals, there was no chance of a failed attempt. I swallowed at least 300 pills of all kinds.

I hadn't considered how desperately my friends would try to save me should they find me. The following year taught me just to be happy being alone, enjoying movies while cuddling my husky 'Skyla' and pavement special 'Rosco'. We went for many walks that year, just processing life.

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A year later, in Feb 2010, I met Dudley Malcolm at a friend's braai that I just happened to pop into. I had plans with some other friends, but I promised my friend that I would show face on my way down to 'The Island'.

Dudley was so sweet to one of my friends who had a medical condition and was often treated poorly for it. I left thinking the world needed more kind people like Dudley. I spent a couple of hours at the bar with friends and left for home just before midnight. I had just got home and into my comfy clothes when I got a phone call from an unknown number. It was the 'guy' from the braai saying I must come to pool city.

Of course, with my luck, he thought he was phoning his ex, who was in JHB at the time - either way, a month later, we were dating. I was babysitting, waitressing and housesitting to survive at the time. He kept calling me up and telling me he was going to McArthur Pools and Leisure Centre (an entertainment area in Port Elizabeth). I made it work into my budget even if I didn't eat. I knew I couldn't keep it up, though, and at some point, I would have to decline due to finances. 

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One day my mom and I were driving around, and I told her that this was the man I was going to marry. She, of course, told me to relax, I laughed it off. Well, in June 2010, he proposed by playing hangman on the beach. We thought a December wedding would be amazing but later found out that the minister who was willing to marry us was going away.

The last possible date for the year was July 16, so we planned a wedding in 3 weeks with four groomsmen and four bridesmaids. We decorated my parents' garden in a picnic-style, hoping and praying for good weather. In July, this was very risky, but we just hoped for the best and went for it, no plan B. We had a buffet set up in their dining room. The bridesmaids had no idea that in 3 weeks, they would learn to sew and make their dresses while my mother made mine. I can't believe they pulled it off.

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Randomly Mr Price had top hats, waistcoats and very lovely white formal shirts. So, the groomsmen's outfits were sorted in one day. The only thing we hoped for was that our immediate family could be with us, and my father had said that he only had R15 000 that he could offer us for the entire wedding. With that, we flew my brother's family down from Cape Town, probably the most costly item of our wedding.

My mother didn't get much sleep in those last few days as she also made my bouquet on top of finalising my dress. On July 16 2010, the weather was magical for the middle of winter; it was as warm as any summer day for most of the day. Our close friends took the day off to share the day with us, and we had R12 over from my father's money. 

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I can't imagine a different wedding, spending hundreds of thousands. I was married to the man of my dreams after dating him for less than four months. We went on a magical honeymoon to 'Moonshine on Whiskey Creek'.

We went on a 'premarital course' as we had promised the minister we would, although we were already married. It was entertaining that some couples couldn't agree on certain things like who would take out the garbage or handle the finances. These things thankfully came naturally to us, even at that early stage.

We have been married now for over ten years with two healthy boys, aged 8 and 6. 

To think that I nearly ruined my life by believing in science. Sometimes life and love can take you by surprise, and that's when it is the most appreciated in your life.

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