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Chacha Silva(32) and Jimmy Silva (35), both from LA, USA, first met in high school and fell for each other instantly after being introduced by a mutual friend in April 2009. Their relationship quickly intensified, and three years into their relationship, they met Summer Silva nee Pelletier (25) and fell in love with her.
After a few months of forming a close friendship, they decided to enter into a polyamorous relationship. Their relationship became serious in 2018 when Chacha and Summer talked about having babies and settling down together. On his and Chacha's 10th anniversary, Jimmy proposed to both women, and they accepted.
Chacha, Jimmy and Summer on their wedding day. All images by Mediadrumworld/ Magazine Features
At their recent wedding, Chacha and Summer both wore white dresses with waist-length veils. Each dress cost £1,160 (about R23 700). Jimmy's tux cost £155 (about R3100), while they spent over £10,800 (over R220 000) for the wedding altogether.
The day took place at the Ventura Beach Club, which is managed by Summer's family - they got engaged at the same venue. Both the women's families attended the wedding. However, Jimmy's family was not convinced of his relationship and threatened to disown him when he invited them to the wedding.
"The wedding prep was probably stressful for everyone but us. We had an agreement to make the day the best it could be and didn't let the little things get to us," Summer says. "We chose to take our own spin on a traditional ceremony and not see each other the night before the wedding. We arrived, we all married each other in the presence of most of our family, we ate, we drank, and we danced the night away, it really was the most beautiful day of our polyamory relationship."
She adds that not seeing each other the night before was a challenge because she and Chacha always get ready together. "She (Chacha) looked more beautiful than I have ever seen anyone in my life; very angelic. He was so handsome in his suit. I felt so beautiful in my dress, and I'm so happy I shared this day with my favourite people. I laughed, I cried, I drank my favourite tequila, I ate the best food, and my cheeks hurt at the end of the day at how hard I was smiling," Summer says.
Chacha also thoroughly enjoyed the wedding day. She says, "I felt like I was in a fairytale, and the whole time, I could not stop smiling. Those who came to celebrate with us made the whole event feel like a holiday. Magic was in the air, helping us mix our families and friends together for the first time. My family is accepting of our relationship because they truly love me unconditionally and see the happiness that exists in our relationship."
Jimmy describes what it was like for his family and what their future plans are. "My family has probably been the least supportive all along. They kind of pretend my relationship doesn't exist," he said.
"I only had one cousin attend my wedding because my immediate family asked the rest of my family not to support. They treated me as if I am doing something wrong, and it's sad."
Although married, the trio is mutually attracted to women and are open to the idea of more women joining their lives.
"Our goal is to spread awareness that our relationship, although seemingly taboo, really isn't. We want more people to know how we live our life," Jimmy says.
SOURCE: Mediadrumworld/ Magazine Features
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