Why Taylor Swift is a bully

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Before Taylor Swift released 1989, I used to think she was super mean for dissing her ex-boyfriends in her songs.

I don’t like it when people name and shame, or air their dirty laundry on social media. So I find it even more unappealing when someone does it on such a grand scale.

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Then Taylor released 1989, which is undeniably one of the greatest pop albums of our time.

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The songs are more focused on happiness and love, and even Style (which is apparently about Harry Styles), holds no animosity.

Most of the songs have positive messages, with Shake It Off being the ultimate don’t-let-anyone-get-to-you anthem.

But amongst these songs is Bad Blood, which is allegedly about Taylor Swift’s feud with Katy Perry.

Initially I thought the song was quite funny – I mean, Katy and Taylor were acting equally childish about the whole situation. Katy was sub-tweeting Taylor, and Taylor was dissing her in interviews.

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Here’s what Taylor told Rolling Stone:

"For years, I was never sure if we were friends or not. She would come up to me at awards shows and say something and walk away, and I would think, 'Are we friends, or did she just give me the harshest insult of my life?'”

Then last year, the other star apparently crossed a line, according to Swift. "She did something so horrible, I was like, 'Oh, we’re just straight-up enemies.' And it wasn’t even about a guy!"

Taylor didn't stop at interviews though. She had to shame Katy in the biggest way possible, and that meant recruiting all her cronies to make a star-studded music video for Bad Blood.

Now, I’ll admit that I was very excited to watch the video. And I wasn’t disappointed in terms of the production of it. But I was disappointed in the message.

The girl Taylor is fighting with in the music video, played by Taylor’s bestie Selena, is so obviously meant to be Katy. And it makes me really sad.

Here is a woman who has written back to fans on Tumblr about standing up against bullies. A woman who has been so vocal about not letting anyone get you down (looking at you, Kanye).

And there she goes and does the exact same thing to Katy Perry – someone she used to call a friend.

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Bullies come in many different forms. You get your stereotypical playground bully who resorts to physical bullying. Then you get bullies who break other people down mentally.

These bullies often get away with it, because so many people discredit the harm mental bullying does, because unlike physical bullying – there are no visible scars to show.

But I can say from personal experience that the latter is a very powerful thing. Even if this is just one big publicity stunt (which Katy is part of) – I can’t condone the message this is sending.

Getting all your friends to team up on someone is NOT okay, ever. I’ve seen it happen at school, in clubs and even on social media.

It’s also not cool to keep throwing shade at someone long after a fall-out. If you can’t settle it with them, then at least let it be. Don’t be that girl. Just don’t.

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It’s interesting to me that Taylor has managed to stay everyone’s favourite girl-next-door regardless of the way she’s treated ex-boyfriends, and now ex-friends, in the media.

I think she’s extremely talented and I have no doubt that she’s a good friend to Selena, Karlie, Haim, Lorde, Lily… Jis, the list is just too long.

But if I were them, I’d sleep with one eye open.

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