I lied. Well, sort of.
The thing is, I may be too attached to a man I once dated.
After two years apart, he still plays a significant role in my life.
And despite our strictly platonic relationship, I cannot sit here and tell you that there are no emotions on my side. I also can’t tell you that I’ve properly moved on.
Facing the truth
“You need to cut ties, my friend, how else do you expect to move on?!” This is a line, a phrase, a requirement, I guess, that I actually need to and must consider fast.
If not for sanity’s sake, then for the mere fact that it’s vital if I ever want to find love and be happy - with someone else - again.
I wish he was a complete douche, you know? Or that he cheated while we were together. Or that he was dating again. Because then I could hate him and it would make ‘freeing’ myself so much easier.
But, alas. He’s actually a decent, caring man whom I honestly cannot fault.
Things ended because they had to. And maybe that’s what I should keep in mind when I doubt my past decisions and wonder what the future holds.
Have you been - or are you - in a similar situation? Please say you have advice to give?
Maybe your ‘dilemma’ was not – or is not - with an ex. Perhaps your ‘dangerous liaison’ has to do with a work colleague, a married guy, an abusive man...
How did you simply end it?