‘I was in a situationship with a man 10 years younger for over a year. Here's why I kept it secret’

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I met Ben at church. We were not really friends, but I lived in a small town so we had mutual friends. To be honest, I didn't even like him. I thought he was arrogant, so I was quite annoyed when he joined the church's youth department that I was a part of. This meant that I had to work closely with him, and it was not something I was looking forward to.  

We soon began spending a lot of time together, working on church events, and I began to warm towards him. I started to see him in a different light and figured I was perhaps wrong about him.

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