Petty dating dealbreakers? For these women, they are a non-negotiable goodbye

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Attraction is a warm-up to considering getting to know someone or even starting to date them. But some things can put a stop to the possibility.

I was called petty for being uninterested in someone who could not spell or punctuate and a grown man who writes like this, 'hud,' (How are you doing?), 'wud' (What are you doing?), gudmrn (Good morning) or 'hbd' (Happy Birthday). 

I didn't expect him to be an academic or a language expert, but the most straightforward rules should apply. The disappointment of seeing a full stop after 'but' and one after 'how are you' was irreconcilable. I don't have an explanation for it. I shut down immediately. 

With that being said, we don't all get tickled by the same things, nor do we get put off by the same things. 

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We hear from other women who have what may be considered petty dealbreakers but are reason enough to shut it down.

Terry-Anne Solomons

"Dirty fingernails like he is a mechanic. My partner would need to touch me physically but also he might cook for me, or we share food, and it would freak me out. Another one, I can't stand is chewing loudly or with mouth open."

Palesa Pela

"The pitch of his voice can either make me stay or go. The deeper the voice, the better to imagine him trying to reprimand me. With his low pitch, trust me, I'd be always laughing at him. It would not work."

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Bonolo Modise

"Height is a definite dealbreaker for me. I don't like short men because I am tall. And shoes, I once had an experience where his shoes looked like he had been walking for a very long distance. I could not get over that, and I didn't have the guts to tell him, but I stopped responding to his texts." 

Logan Arends

"I am the jealous type. When I don't get the necessary attention from a partner, I am out. I love getting attention, maybe too much attention, but that is just me."

Lesego Ramakutwane 

"Snoring is a pain. I am a light sleeper, and I would die if I slept with someone who snores and loudly at that. I know I get irritated quickly, so that would be enough to make me leave." 

Tshegofatso Mokale

"Gold-tooth. Bye. Thanks" 

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In a previous article, republished by W24, Elisa Gizzo, an associate marriage and family therapist at Andrea Cornell Marriage and Family Therapy in New York City says: "Taking it slow gives you a chance to get to know one another and see if you have similar interests and enjoy spending time together." 

Elisa adds that it doesn't hurt to be honest about what you're looking for.

Perhaps a little honesty, too, might help the situation.

What are your petty dealbreakers? Let us know here.

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