Three's a crowd? This couple's unique lifestyle with third-wheel bestie is straight out of a sitcom

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Lily Brown, boyfriend Alistair Moss and his best friend Tom Doherty. Image courtesy Lily Brown/ Caters News/ Magazine Features
Lily Brown, boyfriend Alistair Moss and his best friend Tom Doherty. Image courtesy Lily Brown/ Caters News/ Magazine Features

  • Third wheels are not taboo, especially if it is your partner's best friend; however, one friend seems to take it a bit too far.
  • A woman has shared that her boyfriend's best friend stays with them and joins them on date night.
  • However, she says she loves having him around because he knows how to make himself scarce.

A woman has revealed that her boyfriend's best pal is the ultimate third wheel - after admitting the trio live together, share a business - and even book joint holidays.

Lily Brown has been with her boyfriend, Alistair Moss (23), for four years after the couple met at university. But after leaving university, the pair moved in with Alistair's best pal Tom Doherty to save on rent.

It's been four years, and Tom is showing no signs of moving out of the home they all share. Moreover, he even joins them on trips abroad and for romantic meals. But rather than pining for their own space, Lily says she loves Tom living with them. The couple even use him to referee when they bicker.

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"Life would be so different without Tom; he's so funny and makes us laugh so much. We are all best friends, and we trust each other with anything. As a trio, we spend pretty much 24/7 together as we not only live together but work together too," says Lily.

"As best friends, we also love to go out and have fun together. All our friends and family love our friendship as it’s so rare and wholesome at the same time. When one of us isn’t at an occasion, someone is bound to ask where the third one is."

"People ask if I get fed up having Tom around all the time, but I love it, and it doesn't feel as though we're living in each other's pockets. We've been out together as a trio on New Year's Eve; even though Alistair and I will want to have our moment as the clock strikes 12, it won't be awkward because we're not a big PDA couple. Tom knows when to make himself scarce," she says.

Tom, Alistair, Lily
Tom, Alistair, Lily. Image courtesy Lily Brown/ Caters News/ Magazine Features

The trio met in 2018 while studying at the University of Lincoln. All three had lectures in the Lincoln International Business School, where Lily studied Events Management, while Alistair and Tom both studied Sports Business Management.

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Lily and Alistair quickly became a couple, while Alistair and Tom became best friends. The trio now owns two businesses together; Get Legless, a party game company, and Vitmi, a vitamin patch company.

Tom, Alistair, and Lily
Tom, Alistair, and Lily run two businesses together. Image courtesy Lily Brown/ Caters News/ Magazine Features

"We're all quite forthright people and don't beat about the bush, so if any of us is annoyed with the other, we just come out and say it. I have no problems telling Alistair he has annoyed me in front of Tom," Lily says.

"Usually, we end up asking Tom who's in the right. He usually tries to keep out of it, but he does sometimes take one of our sides just to wind the other one up. Luckily, we don't argue often, and if we are having a real couple's argument, Tom always knows the right time to disappear to another room."

Lily says she and Alistair take themselves off for nights on their own occasionally. The boys go out for the night together, too, and she gets some alone time.

"We love running together and playing tennis, but he hates watching the same kind of TV as me. Tom and I will sit and watch shows like I'm A Celeb and Love Island as a pair," she says.

Lily, Alistair and Tom
Lily, Alistair and Tom go out on dates as a trio. Image courtesy Lily Brown/ Caters News/ Magazine Features

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Alistair adds, "Tom was my closest friend at University; we clicked straight away during a group activity and just instantly became best mates. I love living with him; he's definitely the funniest one out of the three of us and living together like this saves us a lot of money."

Tom says, "I don't even feel like I live with a couple; I don't see them as that - they're just my best friends. It never feels too much being around each other 24/7 - we know each other so well and have a great time always! It also saves us a lot of money living together as we split rent and bills three ways. With the cost of living right now, I couldn't afford to live on my own, so it works out for me."

Lily, Alistair and Tom have the best friendship between them with no signs of faltering, but they do have those typical dramas everyone has experienced when living with someone else.

Tom, Alistair and Lily
Tom, Alistair and Lily

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"Like all business partners, and especially if you’re living together, you will have odd arguments over irrelevant things such as cleaning. It can be difficult living with two boys, but it is always resolved within a matter of hours." 

"We are lucky enough to have an office where we run the businesses from, so if one of us wants to escape, we can head there as we have a minibar, sofas and TV – it’s basically like another living room but a five-minute drive from the house," says Lily.

"We know it won't be forever because Alistair and I will look for our own place when we get married – but even when the day does come that we move out, we don't want it to be any further than next door."

Credit: Lily Brown/ Caters News/ Magazine Features

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