#NoOneWins: Everything you need to know about Parental Alienation

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Parental alienation occurs when one parent alienates the other parent from the child or children they share. 

It manifests as the children avoiding the other parent for no specific or real reason, and can be incredibly damaging and traumatic for the children and the alienated parent.  

In an ongoing series, we unpack the various aspects of this troublesome topic, through interviews with local experts, and answering reader questions.

This is how you know if your ex is turning your child against you

One of the more tricky aspects of parental alienation is how to accurately establish whether there really is alienation, or such intent, on the part of the other parent. 

WATCH: A panel of experts answers your Parental Alienation questions 

Parent24 gathered a panel of five local professionals to discuss the intricacies of the issue of parental alienation in South Africa 

Parental alienation explained: FAQs, terms and concepts 

Parental alienation occurs when one parent attempts to poison a child’s mind against another parent, through words or actions or inactions.  

'The mother refuses me access to my child. What can I do to ensure that I play a rightful role in my daughter's upbringing?' An expert assists 

How can the law help a parent to see their children when one parent refuses access?  

Can a parent or grandparent refuse access without a court order?

"Parents need to sort out adult matters between themselves and not put the children in the middle of it."   

'My child's father won't see him, what can I do?'

"As a mother you can only see so much disappointment and pain in the face of your child before you eventually stop everything in its tracks."

I’ve been denied access to my grandchild, what are my rights after a divorce or death?

"Grandparents are legally "considered interested third parties" and, via The Children's Act, "have the right to apply for contact with the child".  

My ex gossips about my parenting choices to her family! What can I do? 

"Ultimately, such decisions are left to the parents who have parental rights and responsibilities in respect of the child, unless a court order provides otherwise." 

My child’s other parent is toxic: how do I legally get sole custody? 

You feel the need to protect them from all the bad things in the world, but what happens when one of those bad things is their other parent? 

Are you struggling with parental alienation in lockdown?

Some parents found themselves in a tug-of-war over the children, and with courts closed, travel restricted and lockdown regulations it became harder to enforce custody agreements.

Parental alienation has officially been recognised by WHO, but it's been a violation of SA children’s rights since 2005

A "substantial and sustained dissatisfaction within a caregiver-child relationship associated with significant disturbance in functioning."

Reader shares heartbreaking story of parental alienation

"Justice delayed is justice denied" 

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