5 stages to expect when going through a breakup and how to get through them

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Tony Anderson

It is never easy when the one you love breaks up with you. Even if you are the one who has to end things. There are stages one experiences when going through a breakup. 

"The Relationship Architect", Shelley Lewin explains that we do not pass through these stages in a straight line. "In one day, we can experience several of these, but each one is a dominant 'theme' to describe our physiological and emotional state," she says.

Here are the stages to expect when going through a breakup according to Shelley: 

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