Aren't we glad we can call out toxic behaviour by name? Especially in relationships where you can sense something is off.
Like 'quiet quitting' in relationships, this is when a partner 'leaves' a relationship by not really communicating how they feel. It may be a coping mechanism where a partner shuts down and chooses not to address anything. Still, that kind of response is not beneficial to a relationship.
If you sense a change in your relationship, don't ignore it. Feeling like you are the only one putting in the work and not getting involvement from your partner indicates that something may be wrong.
Psychotherapist Mary Jo Rapini shares signs that your partner is 'quiet quitting' your relationship:
1. Decreased physical affection - if they are no longer touching or hugging you.
2. Insufficient emotional attention. When you talk to them, they look at their phone or sometimes are not interested in your thoughts or feelings.
3. They stop seeking your opinion and advice. When you have something to talk about, the first person you go to is your partner. If that stops, take note.
4. Avoiding time together. They no longer prioritise you; you or the relationship is not number one. It sends a clear message, and you should pay attention to it.
5. No discussion about the future. You aren't planning for the next year, the next five years, or vacations. When that stops, there is something wrong in the relationship.
Mary Jo says couples need to have an open and honest conversation about what's happening and let each other know how they feel.
"Understand quiet quitting isn't about a single person, but your relationship - it is a sign of a relationship being toxic and one person carrying the weight. Be considerate and direct, even if it results in a breakup," she says.