- Attorney Simon Dippenaar of SD Law and Associates says there are things you shouldn't do when going through a divorce.
- Even if your breakup is amicable, it's generally wise to wait until your divorce is finalised to start dating again.
- During this time, it is not ideal to take on new debt or change jobs. Financial stability is more important at the moment than pursuing a career opportunity.
Leaving a marriage does not happen in a vacuum. It is often said that first, people check out emotionally before deciding to shut the door psychically. This may prompt the tempting idea of starting to date again, but attorney Simon Dippenaar of SD Law and Associate warns against this.
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Dippenaar says there are things you do not do when going through a divorce and adds that the process can drag on, become costly, and cause tremendous distress.
Here are three things to steer clear of during a divorce process:
Don’t jump into datingEven if your breakup is amicable, it's generally wise to wait until your divorce is finalised to start dating again. You don't want your friends or reasonable spouse to become hostile out of jealousy and turn an uncontested divorce into something much messier. If you have met someone and you'd like to spend time with them in public, talk to your lawyer first to ensure you don't compromise your case.
Take inventory of your finances
If you don't already have a record of your income and expenditure, create one. As year-end statements arrive, save them to a folder (or take a photo if they come as paper in the mail). Even if you are not responsible for the family finances, now is the time to bring yourself up to speed. When it comes to negotiating maintenance, you will need to know the cost of maintaining the household.
It's not a good time to take on new debt or change jobs. Financial stability is more important at the moment than pursuing a career opportunity.