From farts to burps, women share awkward moments that ended the honeymoon phase of their relationships

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  • When it comes to letting go and fully being comfortable around your partner, many rules govern just how much you can let go.
  • According to Bustle, the honeymoon phase in a relationship lasts 12-24 months, so before you can take off your contact lenses, wear your glasses with your sweatpants and fully geek out, you need to await this period to be over (as if that's possible).
  • Apparently the simple reason is that you need to preserve the honeymoon phase, also known as the thrilling phase, for as long as you can - provided you think this is even a thing.

Marriage and Family Therapy Specialist Dr Stan Tatkin dubs the honeymoon phase of a relationship as the beginning of a relationship when both partners are essentially on drugs – their endogenous drugs.

In other words, this is the waiting period before you can share your most undesirable traits, according to your perception. While looking at this phase, we need to acknowledge that many women are so comfortable with themselves that bearing their soul early on doesn't mean any changes in their relationship.

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We have to admit; every relationship goes through stages, and licensed marriage and family therapist, Linda Caroll says the five stages of a relationship include, Merge, Doubt and Denial, Disillusionment, the Decision and the Wholehearted Love stage.

Our focus will be on the Merge stage, which is driven by the sweeping romance that often consumes a couple when they first get together, including an all-consuming joy in the presence of your partner and insatiable passionate sex.

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Before we let out what women have shared with us about their most awkward quirky moments, we need to highlight the signs that let you know that the honeymoon phase of your relationship has ended, according to Bustle:

  • You notice your partner’s negative traits - As the honeymoon phase ends, you see the little things that used to be cute quickly becoming annoying.
  • Your passion has faded – The point where you feel less excited about your partner, including between the sheets, might be a hint the romantic phase has drawn to a close.
  • You become reactive to conflict – As the phase draws close to an end, you might start finding yourself becoming reactive without thinking during a conflict.
  • You had power struggles – You reach a moment where you might find it difficult to compromise.
  • You’re keeping score – When couples have conflict, there may be negative feelings withheld which causes the other to start keeping score of who caused the previous conflict.

Due to the excitement, there’s one way of telling if you’ve crossed the line, through your feelings. Deep down in your heart of hearts, you know when you have done something that you would only do alone, around friends and family without any judgment.

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Below women share the moment they realise they’ve gotten a bit too comfortable:

I have to be honest, with me; there are no secrets when I have to let one out, so it must be. Whether it is the first date or not, I have to make myself comfortable.
Lelo
I met my partner at Groove with a full face beat, wig, and edges laid so you can imagine the amount of pressure I felt with him seeing me dressed down. The moment I slept over, and he saw me dressed down with my morning face, I knew the honeymoon phase was over.
Reno
The honeymoon phase in my relationship ended when I went to an event with my partner, and he vomited on me from consuming way too much alcohol. From that moment on, I realised I could never be ashamed of anything I do around the man.
Omi
I don’t have a lot of loungewear items, and the lockdown has made me realise I need to get more. I got into a relationship with my partner during the lockdown, so he went from seeing me dressed up outside to wearing free t-shirts.
Hloni
The honeymoon phase in my relationship ended before we even started dating. On our first date, I ate a meal I still can’t pronounce and had no idea it had nuts in it. I have a peanut allergy. I swelled up, he had to take me to the nearest healthcare centre.
Reabetswe
I always kick myself in the butt for never throwing old clothes away and the one time I realised that it was a big problem, was when I wore my sweatpants with lint around my boyfriend. Those sweatpants ended the honeymoon phase in my relationship.
Tumi
I knew I ended the relationship honeymoon phase the moment I started wearing flip-flops with everything.
Natasha
Growing up around boys, they burp out loud and sometimes not even say ‘excuse me’. I used hide this side until one day, with an absent mind, I let one big growl out of me and only realised after that my boyfriend was around. The room became tense.
Kea
The honeymoon phase ended the moment I stopped unplaitting and combing my afro in the mornings. I did everything with my evening plaits.
Ntonhle
I’m quite an open person. I easily become comfortable around people; however, the moment I did the number two at my partner’s place, I realised I had crossed the line of hide and seek, and there was no going back.
Anonymous

Sources: Bustle, Share Care, Mind Body Green 

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