Hard to say 'I'm sorry'? Be better at apologising to your loved ones with these helpful tips

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Did you miss a major event in your partner's life? Or maybe you hurt their feelings accidentally?

The art of apologising is dependent on the words we use, our tone and our demeanour. Here's how to be better at apologising to the ones we love.

Don't be defensive

So you've made a mistake and are feeling defensive. Experts say you should not let this fuel your apology.

Be sincere. Don't say something like: "I'm sorry you were offended."

"It's just so horrific to do something wrong and then fail to acknowledge that you've hurt or upset somebody," etiquette expert, Jodi Smith, tells Best Life.

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No excuses

Don't offer your partner flimsy apologies. Avoid language like: "I'm sorry I said that, but you made me react that way."

Instead, try something like: "I'm sorry I said that. I should not have reacted that way."

Take responsibility

Experts say there is no accountability when you're deflecting blame. "It essentially allows to apologiser to blame the apologisee," says Jodi.

Don't point fingers. Swallow your pride and acknowledge when you've been wrong.

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