'He kept an urn and told the women he cheated with I’m dead to explain my pictures around the house'

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When you thought cheating couldn’t get worse, you find out that it actually can and does. Everyday people find new ways to cheat without getting caught instead of dealing with the issues causing them to cheat. If you thought you have heard of all the inventive ways, your mind is about to get blown away by this man who convinced the women he was cheating with that his girlfriend is dead, using an urn and pretending her ashes were in it.

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Tik Tok user @brook_abroad took to the platform to ask other users, “Stitch with the moment you knew your relationship was over.” One user responded with a clip that went viral, saying, “When I questioned him why there was an urn in our living room, and later found out, it was so he could cheat on me and tell people that’s the reason there’s still pictures of me up in our house and why there’s womanly décor is because I’m dead (sic).”

Yes, you read that right. That is the extent men will go, to cover not only the affair but the fact that they are already in a relationship with another woman.

More women share how their partners hid affairs from them (and do feel free to see these as red flag in your relationship):

He had a gym membership that he used only to go take a shower after seeing her before coming home. It was only when I realised that his body wasn’t changing (from so many gym sessions) after a month then decided to follow him to the gym.
Lihle
We moved in together at my apartment as it was close to work for both of us. He said he rented out his place, only to find out he hadn't. When I found out it turned out his neighbour even thought we broke up because he’d been seeing new girls at his place regularly.
Hloni
Heeeh! My ex introduced me to his side chick and told me she was his cousin from out of town, here to visit for the weekend. Yoh! Guys, I bought her clothes and took her out for lunch.
Hlompho
My boyfriend and I agreed to be open with our finances. Little did I know it was too good to be true. He kept a card he would spend on baecations with other women.
Sammy
He would get drunk and go to a nearby bar and start a conversation with other women by telling them I cheated and then left him. They would feel sorry for him and end up in bed with him.
Ntonhle
He kept a bag in his car and said it was his gym clothes. Those were the clothes he would change into to see other women. Then changed back to the ones he left home wearing.
Mbali
I called him on Valentine's Day midnight and asked him where he was. He said he didn’t know. I asked him to mention what he saw around him, and he said nothing. I believed him. Cry with me.
Natasha

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