'I stayed with my ex for 4 more years after realising it's over' - why we stay in dead relationships

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All the blind spots that you so carefully put in place to stop you from facing this truth are clearly exposed and you ask yourself how you managed to stay together for so long after the relationship had reached its expiry date.

Why did you choose to ignore all the signs that things were falling apart? And why did you keep dismissing that knowing, wise inner voice — your gut — that tried to tell you, time and again, that it was over.

Many couples get into the trap of flogging a dead horse. It is simultaneously the easiest and hardest thing to do. It is easy because staying in one's comfort zone means not having to confront the discomfort of change.

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