‘My boyfriend broke up with me for someone he met a few days ago. What do I do?’ - expert advice

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  • A woman wants to know what she should do after her boyfriend left her for another girl.
  • Relationship coach, Paula Quinsee shares that it is important to dust yourself up and move on with your life.
  • She says that no amount of pleading or rationalising is going to help.

One of the worst heartbreaks is when your partner leaves you for someone else. When your partner leaves you for someone else, what do you do? Is there anything you can do?

One Quora user said her boyfriend of one year left her for a girl he met a few days earlier and she wanted to know what to do in the situation.

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Relationship coach Paula Quinsee says, “Having your partner ditch you for someone else can be hurtful and bring lots of heartache and pain. No one likes to feel rejected, especially not by another person."

To overcome this kind of situation, one should never beat themselves up because there is nothing they can do.

“He has made a decision to move on, and so you need to move on. No amount of pleading or rationalising is going to help here, and it’s less about him and more about you now.

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What do you need to gain closure and be able to move forward and start a new life?

Paula says you should process what happened and take the insights/lessons forward, so you make better decisions next time.

"Pick up the pieces and move forward, so you don’t dwell on old times and keep yourself stuck in the past. Establish a new structure and routine for yourself, change things up a bit, try new things, go to new places,” she says.

"You should forgive yourself for getting into this kind of situation. Sometimes you and your partner just aren’t aligned, and that’s ok. It’s better to let go and allow each other the opportunity to move on and flourish than stay together and bring out the worst in each other, which over time can become toxic and destructive,” she says.

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Other people also responded:

Elsa replied:

“Give yourself the respect that you deserve and block him everywhere, change your phone number. Put many pictures of you daily enjoying your life, go out with friends meet new guys too. And love your life; don’t post anything related to him on social media. Don’t call him, don’t text him, value yourself, he is not worth it.”

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Jerry Malone said:

“Move on with your life and keep very busy. Very busy. Do not lie around thinking of him. It’s tough, but it happens to all of us, and we all survive it. Do not call him or try to see him. If you make that mistake, you would be needy.”

Ashley Herard said:

“Find someone else. He already did that, so there’s nothing you can do. Think of it this way: he may have wasted a year with you, but it would’ve been way worse if it was 2, 3, or 5 years because he didn’t have enough respect for you or the relationship. Guys like that don’t deserve good women, so you dodged a bullet!”

What would you do in such a situation? Tell us here.

Additional source: Quora

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