Respecting boundaries on social media deepens partner's trust

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A third of all divorce filings mentioned Facebook or social media as a factor but for many posting online is a big part of their lives, so how do you create healthy boundaries? 

Psychotherapist, Mary Jo Rapini explains that this means people posted something that the other partner thought was a betrayal or they were suspicious.

These issues then transpire into the relationship and it doesn’t stop with social media, it goes home with you and it’s registered between the two of you no matter what you’re doing.

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Tips to succeed according to Mary Jo Rapini:

Ask before you post

If you are not sure about what you want to post, go ahead and ask your partner. 

Don’t post what you wouldn’t share with your partner

If you don’t want your partner to see something you post then don’t post it - that’s the best rule of thumb.

Ask ‘why’ you want to post

Self reflection is the first thing you should do before you post something.

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Share passwords and accounts

If you’re going for that marriage that’s completely transparent you want your partner to trust you all the time, then make sure they can look at your posts. You can keep each other on track.

Set social media boundaries

Couples should take breaks from social media. They should spend time together without their phones and away from social media.

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