Woman with 2 husbands and 'uncountable' boyfriends says she gets all the attention without any guilt

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Kenya Stevens with her husbands. Image via Kenya K Stevens/Instagram
Kenya Stevens with her husbands. Image via Kenya K Stevens/Instagram
  • Kenya Stevens has two husbands and 'uncountable' boyfriends. She is proud and happy to be polyamorous.
  • She has been married to her first husband for 26 years and the second one for nine years. 
  • She founded the Progressive Love Academy (PSALMS), it helps improve every aspect of life and bring out their greatest potential as a human and spiritual beings

People are always amazed by her polyamorous lifestyle, but Kenya Stevens is always open to sharing. Some may consider it 'bizarre' but she takes no offense because she is 'proud and happy to be polyamorous. 

She tells W24 about her two husbands and boyfriends. "I have been married to my hubby number one (Carl Stevens) for 26 years and hubby number two (Tiger) for nine years," Kenya says.

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Kenya Stevens says she is happy with her lifestyle. All images via Kenya K Stevens/Instagram

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Free-spirited Kenya lives in North Carolina in the U.S. and is widely known for her polyamory advocacy. 

When we ask about her boyfriends, a candid Kenya says, "That's uncountable. I have many partners, boyfriends and connections. Polyamory is not for everyone because it can be complex in a society where monogamy is a norm."

She is the founder of the Progressive Love Academy (PSALMS), an online relationships, empowerment, and metaphysical school, which is said to help improve every aspect of life and bring out attendees' greatest potential as human and spiritual beings.

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"Many couples are waking up to the fact that humans are living outside our natural paradigm, meaning humans are not a monogamous species," the mother of three says. Kenya says marriages and families are breaking up, riddled with adultery. We are creating solutions here at Progressive Love Academy that support couples in moving smoothly from monogamy to polyamory - for the sake of family and love," she explains. 

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Kenya says it is easy to introduce the conversation to her partners. "I am upfront. I don't waste any time. I tell any potential partner or boyfriend that I am married, and I don't plan to have a divorce. I tell them I don't believe in divorce, I will always be polyamorous, and I don't believe in monogamy," she explains.

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There are questions and judgement from people who are either fascinated or shocked by her lifestyle. "The most common question is: why get married? But that does not seem like a logical question because I want to marry everyone I love. Who would not want to marry people they love? Many advantages come with polyamory. Anytime I want affection and attention, I can have that without any guilt and shame," she tells us. 

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But the disadvantage is that not everyone knows how to go about the lifestyle. "The basic misconception is that it is all about sex or that it is selfish. I don't think it is selfish to want to love more. It is actually selfless. If I can share more of myself and love more people, that sort of love heals the planet. In that way, we have more network of love instead of the ownership model where I only have one person," Kenya says.

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