The sex advice Keke Palmer took from Whoopi Goldberg

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  • Keke Palmer shares how her approach to intimacy and pleasure has changed.
  • Whoopi Goldberg gave her sex advice that made her realise that she needed to make herself happy first.
  • A sex coach shares tips on how women can get up close and personal with themselves.

Keke Palmer recently shared the life-changing sex advice she got from Whoopi Goldberg.

The 29-year-old actor says she used to get her pleasure from being intimate with a partner but a chance remark from the 57-year-old comedian while on her show 'The View' changed that for the better. Since then, she's changed her approach to lovemaking. 

During an episode of her podcast, Baby, This is Keke Palmer, the star reflected on her relationship with intimacy.

"My identity with sex - it was always based upon, 'Oh, I just gotta do this service'. And my enjoyment, any enjoyment that I had... came from, 'I'm glad they're happy.'"

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Keke said she realised that it became depressing and not enough. "So, it's been a journey of trying to figure out what works for me." The advice she got from Whoopi has stuck with her. 

"I'll never forget, I was on The View one time, and they were having a conversation about sex, a really great conversation," Keke said. "And Whoopi Goldberg said, 'Please just start with pleasing yourself'. And I was like, that rings true."

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Over the years, Keke has learned a "calm" and "more emotional" connection during sex works for her better than "porn simulation".

"There was one time in my life where I thought porn simulation sex - because that's what it sounds like to me, porn simulated-esque sex was something that could be interesting or fun."

In a previous article we did about self-pleasure, sex coach and founder of Your Pleasure Advocate, Kgothatso Motshele, shared how women can get up close and personal with themselves first:

- Get comfortable with your own body before you even pick up the sex toy. 

- Take time to know how different parts feel, look and smell.

- Find out how your body reacts to different sensations. Where does it like to be touched?

- Being comfortable and understanding your own body will help you make better and more informed choices when choosing pleasure products and toys. 

- There is an overwhelming number of toys on the market. They have different shapes. Some suck, some vibrate, some pulse. Knowing what your body likes before shopping will help you narrow down your search. 

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