Bride-to-be upset after fiancé returns 'expensive' wedding dress to store behind her back

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  • A woman who has been planning her wedding says things have gone well so far, except that she's started to argue with her partner about logistics for their big day.
  • The latest agreement involves the fact that her husband-to-be returned her wedding dress to the bridal store as he says it is expensive.
  • His mother agrees and accuses the bride-to-be of wanting to ruin her son's financial stability.


Every bride dreams of how they'll look on their wedding day. This was the case for the 29-year-old bride-to-be who has longed for a beautiful wedding dress to call her own since she was a little girl.

The bride-to-be took to Reddit to explain that she and her fiancé have experienced some hiccups while planning their wedding. They argued about the venue and the flower girl, and now they're arguing about him returning her wedding dress to the bridal store.

“Me and my soon-to-be husband are getting married soon. So far, wedding planning has been going all right except for a few things he and I argued about, like the venue and flower girl. Now we've been arguing about my wedding dress," the bride says.

“This might sound cliché, but ever since I was young, I dreamt of having my own beautiful wedding dress, I can afford it, but my soon-to-be husband thinks it's not okay to waste a couple of thousands on a dress I'm only going to wear once, yes he might have a point there, but for one, this is a typical price for wedding dresses. And two, because it's a once-in-a-lifetime thing, why not make sure it's special?”

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She says he still wasn't convinced and suggested she rent a dress instead of buying one.

“He started saying that I'm being irresponsible with money and brought up how much money I've already put aside to ‘rent a face’ (he means makeup) and wear ‘fake’ hair, but I have this vision of what I want to look like,” the unhappy woman says.

She wrote that she realised the dress was missing from her wardrobe just one day after she'd purchased it.

“I freaked out, but he told me he returned it and got the money back. I was shocked. I asked him why he did that, and he said he thought the dress was ridiculously expensive and that was wasting money and again suggested I go rent one.”

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She argued with him, and his response was, “calm down.”

“I said he had no right, I'm the one paying for the damn dress. He got upset and said that there's no ‘I'm paying for it myself’ in marriage and that my attitude is setting the tone for what type of dynamic we'll have in our marriage; he kept on about how I expect him to pay for everything while I keep ‘my money’ or spend it irresponsibly,” she shares.

“I responded that he gets zero say in how I spend my money whatsoever. he told me that I should grow up and stop with the ‘dream wedding dress’ cliché, then stormed off to call his mom, who chewed me out, saying she won't let me ruin her son's financial stability with how I deal with money generally.”

Fellow Reddit users believe that the relationship has a lot of red flags. One user commented: “Maybe the theme of the wedding is Red Flags. The bridesmaids will wear red. The groom will have a red suit. And the aisle will be lined with increasingly big red flags until she reaches the altar, which is actually just a tent made of one giant red flag."

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Another user commented, “If you marry this guy, it won’t just be the wedding dress. It’ll be cute outfits, jewellery, and makeup. Items for your hobbies. Monitoring your credit card and bank history and telling you that you spend too much money going out with friends. Do what you want, but you’ll be signing up to be controlled and financially abused if you go ahead with marrying him,” commented another.

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Source: Reddit

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