Dad refuses to walk daughter down the aisle, opting to walk step-daughter who asked first

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  • A father refused to walk his daughter down the aisle, but later wondered if saying no was a mistake.
  • People online have accused him of "playing favourites". 
  • He freely acknowledged turning down one of his daughters' request to walk her down the aisle, while agreeing to do so for his other child.
  • He has varying relationships with his daughters.


A father refused to walk his daughter down the aisle, but later wondered if saying no was a mistake. 

Sharing his story anonymously on Reddit, the father explained that he has two daughters, Marie and Julie.

"Julie is not my biological daughter since I married my current wife when she was only 2, and since her dad was absent, I adopted her as my own, but I love both my daughters the same," he said. 

His adopted daughter Julie and his biological daughter Marie both asked him to walk them down the aisle. But the father only agreed to walk Julie because he didn't feel like he was close to Marie at all. Marie was allegedly furious.

Julie lived with her step-father, and they did almost everything together. Marie is closer to her mom, mainly because her mom got full custody of her, and has never lived with her father.

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"Now, to the main issue: Julie got engaged about a year ago and immediately asked me to walk her down the aisle; I, of course, agreed and have actively helped her with the wedding planning, which is scheduled for October 2022," the dad wrote.

"A couple of weeks ago, Marie asked me to grab some coffee with her and let me know she's currently pregnant and will soon get married. To be honest, this got me off guard since I didn't even know she had a boyfriend. She apparently will have quite a fast wedding since she doesn't want to show too much, meaning her wedding will be in 3 months."

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Marie reportedly told her father that it would be a small ceremony and asked him to walk her down the aisle.

"I then went home and let my wife and daughter know, and Julie asked me to please decline since she wanted to be the first to be walked down the aisle and since she asked first, thinks that I have a stronger commitment to her.

"I agreed since this is more of an Us thing rather than an after-thought like Marie's wedding. I then sent a message to Marie letting her know of my decision with a brief explanation and even offered options like her mom or step-dad to walk with her. I also reassured her that I'd still be with her there and support her with anything."

Marie then allegedly called her father crying, telling him how much of a horrible father he is and how he has always played favourites.

"She ended up hanging up, and my ex has been sending me tons of texts berating me and calling me names," said the dad.

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Word had spread to some family members, resulting in the father being referred to as a deadbeat and trash. But his wife and step-daughter agree that his decision is the only fair one and he shouldn't be pressured into doing something he does not want to do. 

What do you think? Did the dad make the right decision? Tell us here.

Commenting on the post, one user chimed in: "I wonder whether it's rooted in feelings of abandonment and inferiority, because I have a twin sister and I'd never think of going 'No, Dad, you can't walk her down the aisle too!"

"I don't buy his whole 'turning her down seemed like the rational decision in the moment' attitude. He's 49, for heaven's sake!" commented another.

Source: Reddit


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