'My brother refused to have me in his wedding pictures because my outfit wasn't in line with the theme'

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Illustration. Photographed by Volodymyr Nadtochii
Illustration. Photographed by Volodymyr Nadtochii
Volodymyr Nadtochii
  • The idea to have a colour coordinated wedding seems lovely. However, as many of us have experienced, there is always that one friend or family member who thinks they can wear whatever they feel fit for the day.
  • It is understandable as many who attend weddings already spend a lot of money towards travelling to the wedding, accommodation during the period, and hair and makeup.
  • A woman took to Reddit to ask users if she was wrong for ignoring the strict wedding theme as she ended up being excluded from the wedding pictures by her brother, who happened to be the groom for the day.

Taking to Reddit, an anonymous woman begins by saying her older brother got married the past week in a relatively small outdoor wedding with less than 100 guests. “For whatever reason, they put on the invites that they wanted the guests to wear certain colours. The invites said the acceptable colours were Fuschia and sky blue. I asked my brother about it, and he said it was just something he and his fiancé wanted and thought it would be fun to have a colour-coordinated wedding.”

She adds that she didn’t own anything in the colour required and only has black and white clothes.

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“I told my brother about this long before the wedding, and he just told me that I have plenty of time to find something that will fit the colour scheme. It was like he has no care for the fact that I don’t wear those colours at all. I complained about it to my parents, and my mom offered to take me shopping to find something to wear, and she told me it was just one day and that wearing something a different colour for a few hours is not going to kill me," the woman says.

"When we went shopping, I hated everything she made me try on, and she ended up just buying a couple of things in the two colours and brought them home.”

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On the wedding day, the woman didn't want to wear anything her mother had bought her; however she did bring her favourite black dress. So, she decided to put it on. Even though her parents told her to put something different on, she still refused, and her parents dropped it to avoid fighting.

“We arrived at the venue early for pictures, and my mom ran off right away to find my brother. I assume to warn him that I didn’t adhere to his colour scheme. So when we were doing family pictures, my brother made a point to tell me that I would not be involved in any of the larger group shots with the wedding party and the rest of our family,” shares the woman.

The brother ignored her for the entire wedding, and she received weird looks from everyone during the reception.

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Redditors flooded the comment section with their opinions, with one calling her out, “You threw a tantrum because you couldn’t wear your favourite colour. You drew attention to yourself because of your actions.”

Another added she would’ve been chased out of the wedding because of wearing black. “In my family, you’d have been kicked out of the wedding. Black is for funerals, wearing all black to someone’s wedding is WISHING THE MARRIAGE DEATH. You’re mourning someone’s future. It is so tacky and tasteless. Black suits? Sure, that’s fine. All black suit, tie, dress shirt? Eeeh, here is a different colour tie. All black dress? That’s it, change, or we kick you out.”

What not to wear at weddings:

- Never wear white or Black

- Don’t match the bridal party

- Avoid attire that is too revealing

- Steer clear of anything too casual

- Don’t wear denim

What to wear at weddings:

- Follow the dress code

- Use the venue as a guide

- Accessorize your outfit

- Shop seasonality

- Cocktail dresses are always a winner.

- Most importantly, always respect the wishes of the bridal party.

Sources: Reddit, The Knot, Brides

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