'My fiancé returned my wedding dress and replaced it with the one his mom picked for me'

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  • The bride's dress is one of the most anticipated items of any wedding. 
  • Brides worldwide keep it as a surprise to their partners and parents until the wedding day.
  • It's the norm for the bride to decide what she will wear, even though she may take advice from her mother, in-laws and bridal party.
  • However, one groom and his mother decided to exchange the bride's chosen dress, without her knowledge, for one his mother prefers.

A 28-year-old woman getting married to her 33-year-old fiancé in December is having difficulty dealing with her intrusive soon-to-be mother-in-law.

She confided to Reddit users that wedding planning had been an absolute nightmare as the in-law isn't willing to agree on most things and the fiancé sides with his mom.

The current disagreement is around the wedding dress and came about after the mother-in-law insisted on being invited dress shopping. 

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"I took her with me and my mom and friends. I was so lucky to have found what I was looking for. But she picked a dress she liked so much and said that she always pictured her son's bride in it," shares the bride who is paying for her dress.

The bride's mom and friends thought that was creepy. "I thought the dress was somewhat creepy and totally not my type. I apologized and thanked her for her vision but told her that I'd already decided on a dress I had envisioned myself wearing at my wedding," the bride shares. This upset the mother-in-law, who told her son what had happened.

"He came home in the evening ranting about how I made his mom upset and turned down her help in choosing the wedding dress and excluded her from the process," the bride says.

The groom got upset as he wanted the bride to consider the dress his mom wanted.

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The couple argued about it, and the next day, she found out that he had returned her wedding dress and replaced it with the one his mom wanted.

"I called him and he was straightforward about what he did and why he did it. I lost it and started screaming at him. He asked me to calm down and give this dress a chance," shares the unhappy woman.

"I refused even to listen. I screamed at him without giving him a chance to speak."

Despite his fianceé being upset, the groom still insisted, saying his mom has good intentions and wants what's best for her as her future daughter-in-law.

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The bride's mother is livid, but her dad advised her that a dress isn't worth ruining her relationship with her in-laws. "He suggested I wisen up and go with the flow but is it too much for me to be able to pick my wedding dress without being guilted about it just to keep the peace," says the bride.

To date, the groom is still insisting on the bride wearing his mom's favourite dress.

What do you think the bride should do? Tell us here.

Another Redditor could relate, saying, "I married a man like this! She was on our first date. She came engagement ring shopping with us. We wanted to have a courthouse wedding. She wanted a wedding for just family. So it was over 100 people; that was just family (she came from a large Catholic family). He eventually learned to set boundaries. And she tried to knock them down, but until she passed away, he put me first."

Another Redditor feels things will only worsen, saying, "Who would want to marry a man that does whatever mommy says and wants his future wife to do what his mom says? Her dad is also wrong for saying she shouldn't ruin her relationship with her in-laws over a dress. What's next? Where to live? How many children? The name of the children? Furniture and decorations of their home? Where to vacation?"

Source: Reddit

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