Are you wasting energy stewing over a long-held grievance? Here's how to get past the bitterness

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Twenty years ago, Nina wanted to buy her parents' small beach house as an investment, but her husband insisted it would put their young family under too much financial strain.

Since then, she has watched real estate values in that coastal area increase at least tenfold - with the holiday shack's land now worth much more than their family home.

Her husband has since apologised and admitted he made the wrong call, but Nina is still furious. She refuses to discuss finances with her husband - and again and again, they've missed out on new investment opportunities.

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