Why trying to find self-love by attempting to become a 'better person' never works

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I want to share my journey and my story about trying to transform my life. It started in my early 20s - a good 30 years ago.

I was struggling with aggression. I was super sensitive, very defensive and sure that I was unlovable. It seemed like all my achievements were such hard work. I was desperate to feel okay and stop suffering.

However, I knew that my life needed to be better and told myself that somehow a change needed to happen.

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