7 common wedding planning mistakes and how to avoid them

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Wedding planning can be stressful. Many couples end up making mistakes that are entirely avoidable.
Wedding planning can be stressful. Many couples end up making mistakes that are entirely avoidable.
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  • Wedding planning can be stressful causing couples to make several avoidable mistakes.
  • We take a look at some of the most common wedding planning blunders and how you can avoid them.
  • From budget talks to legal matters, if you're planning your big day, make sure you consider these seven points.

Wedding planning can be stressful, and in the whirlwind of trying to make your big day as special as possible, many couples end up making mistakes that are entirely avoidable.

So, before you rush to get everything done, take a deep breath, and make sure you avoid some of the most common blunders.

Mistake #1: Blowing the budget

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Have the money talk and don't blow your budget.

Or even worse, not discussing the budget to begin with. It may seem like an obvious one, but once the excitement hits, many couples cannot resist the urge to immediately get on the phone and start booking vendors. 

But as tough as it may be, don't do it. Not unless you and your partner have discussed your budget and are certain that you're not blowing your money all in one place.

Remember, weddings come with many hidden costs (possible dress alterations, vendor trials, etc.), so it's important to make sure that you're always financially prepared for any expenses that may sneak up on you.  

Mistake #2: Sending save-the-dates too early

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Be sure of your guest list before sending save-the-dates.

Sending save-the-date cards are a great way to A, let people know you're tying the knot, and B, allow them enough time to plan for your big day (especially if they're required to travel long distances). 

But before sending these, make sure that you are certain about the people receiving them. It's basically their informal invitation, and the last thing you want is to end up reworking your list and realising you don't have enough space for the number of guests who could potentially show up.

Once you are sure of your numbers, taking into consideration your budget and what the venue can handle, then carefully curate that list of guests and send your save-the-date cards.

Mistake #3: Trying to please everyone

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Remember, you can't please everyone.

This may sound extremely selfish, but it's your wedding, and you cannot please everyone. So when it comes to your guest list, choosing your bridal party, deciding on your dress, cake and venue, make sure the final decision lies with you. 

It's great to have the opinion of those closest to you, but at the end of the day it's important to ensure that you and your partner are happy.

If you know you've got a few opinionated or controlling friends and family members, set the tone from the beginning, allowing them to understand that you value their support, but it's still your wedding. Doing this early enough could help avoid potential rifts down the line.

Mistake #4: Not doing a hair and make-up trial

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Hair and make-up trials are essential.

So you got a recommendation for a hairstylist and make-up artist; you've seen their work on social media, read some reviews or got great feedback from a friend, so you're trusting this information and saving time by not doing a trial. Big mistake.

There are so many little things that could go wrong on your wedding day, don't let your hair and make-up be one of them. Trials are important for both you and your vendors. It not only helps them understand exactly what you need from them, allowing them enough time to prepare, but also helps you feel them out. 

Is this someone who is able to work under pressure? Are they versatile in what they can offer? Do you get along, and can you effectively communicate your needs with them?

These are essential questions that you need to know the answers to long before the morning of your wedding. The last thing you want is to find out the hairstylist can only manage one bridesmaid every 55 minutes, and the make-up artist struggles to adjust make-up looks for different skin tones and face shapes.

Mistake #5: Forgetting the legal bits

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Don't forget about the legal side of things.

Umm... the wedding ceremony is great, but make sure you don't forget about your marriage license. Familiarise yourself with the regulations surrounding marriage licenses and obtaining them.

A mistake many couples make is waiting too long to sort this out. You want to make sure the legal side of things is taken care of on time so that everything is in order on the day of your wedding.

Do your research and make sure you don't get too caught up in the fairytale of it all and forget to sort out the real-world stuff.

Mistake #6: Not having a weather plan

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Always have a weather plan for your big day.

Mother nature is unpredictable, and just because you set your wedding in the middle of summer, does not mean sunshine is guaranteed.

Having a plan in case of bad weather is a must. If you're planning an outdoor wedding, think of easy alternatives should you be dealt a thunderstorm on the day. Similarly, if you're expecting frigid temperatures on your big day, allow for some adjustments in case the weather gods decide to show a bit of mercy.

Better to have a weather plan and not use it, than to not have one and end up needing it.

Mistake #7: Not hiring a videographer

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Many couples regret not hiring a videographer.

Not necessarily a mistake, but a regret many couples have. Photographs are fantastic and a great investment, but if you want to capture those wedding toasts, your vows, or just the look in your partner's eyes when they see you for the first time on the day, then make sure you have a videographer at your disposal as well.

You may not think you need it, but if your budget allows, make room for one. This will allow you and your partner to relive those special memories with the click of a button whenever you wish.

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