- We've all heard of stories about brides thinking their beautiful friend, the one with a great body, or even the pregnant friend, will overshadow them.
- Unfortunately, it turns out stepdaughters can also be accused of overshadowing the bride.
- One Reddit bride made her feelings known when she demanded that her stepdaughter cut her hair, wears flat shoes and light makeup, and doesn't wear fake lashes, not to overshadow the future mother in law on her big day.
The anonymous step-daughter took to Reddit to vent about her stepmother, Alice. She shared that her father and his fiancé are getting married this in November.
"I didn't really like Alice because I think she replaced my mom too soon. My mom died of cancer two years ago, and she and my dad started dating 8 months after," she shared.
"I try to be as polite as I can whenever she's around or starts a conversation with me."
Fortunately, her father never forced her to have a relationship with Alice, and Alice also seems uninterested in having it either.
"After they got engaged, Alice approached me and said we needed to talk. She said she has a clear vision of how she wants her wedding to be and that I have to comply so that everything will be perfect," she says.
The stepdaughter complied and asked her future stepmother what needs, to which she replied, "First I want you to cut your hair short, second, you can't wear heels, and lastly, only wear light makeup and no fake lashes, okay?"
The stepdaughter said she can wear flats and light makeup but will not cut her hair as her deceased mother loved it and helped her grow it thick and healthy.
"I got my blonde wavy hair from my mom, so I will keep it long. Alice accused me of wanting to upstage her. I said that's not what I'm trying to do, and I think it's unfair since I know she didn't make these demands on her other female guests. She then called me a selfish brat and told me how she'll tell my dad how I 'disrespected her'," shared the frustrated step-daughter.
Her father got involved and told her to just cut her hair because it'll grow back, but she refused. Now the step-daughter feels she's put her father in a tight situation and is considering cutting her hair because she knows her presence at the wedding will make her father happy.
In an edit to the post, the step-daughter added that she looks a lot like her mother; she has her hair, eyes and smile.
Reddit users quickly jumped into the comments section in support of her not cutting her hair, with one saying, "She only wants you to cut your hair because she's insecure and jealous. She's worries that you will remind your father of your mother."
Another added a point about her request being a form of abuse. "Punishment haircuts are also considered a form of abuse, power and control tactics. This is a massive red flag. Your father is not protecting you in this; instead, he should be concerned about fiancé's attempt to control/abuse his daughter."
What do you think, should the daughter cut her hair for the sake of peace. Tell us here.