Bride overspends on wedding venue hire and dress, then skimps on food and asks guests to wash dishes

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  • As exciting as planning your dream wedding is, you always have to consider that you may not have the budget required to have it.
  • W24 previously shared a wedding story where a bride was considering cutting food and serving desserts only at her wedding due to the budget.
  • This time, a Reddit bride didn’t have enough money to hire staff to clean up after the wedding, so she skimped on the food and then asked her guests to wash the dishes.

It's not unusual for family and friends to help clean up when weddings are held at home, but generally when they happen at venues guest do not anticipate that they have to clean up themselves. And in the rare cased that guests have to help out, they are usually warned about this in time.

However, a guest who attended a wedding where the bride skimped on cleaning and food, took to Reddit to share the story of when she had to wash dishes at a relative’s wedding.

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“It’s June in the Southern U.S. The bride and groom have gone all out, renting a gorgeous and expensive venue for their wedding—beautiful ceremony, lovely pictures etc. The buffet line and tables have been set up on the screened porch of the building," the guest shares.

"Food looks great; I serve up my plate and go sit down.”

The guest says her boyfriend at the time had gone to the restroom but would have dished up after, but instead, he came back to their table with an empty plate.

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“When I asked why he says there’s no more food. Okay, no problem. I find the bride’s mom and whisper that she should probably ask the caterers to put out more food. She gets a peculiar expression on her face and says there is no more food.”

Shares the guest, "She says all that was on the buffet line was all the food they had."

It turned out that the couple had spent most of their money on the venue and the bride’s couture gown and so decided to self-cater.

“A family friend who was a chef volunteered to make the food. They wanted a certain ‘opulence’, so they purchased top of the line ingredients, which meant they had enough to feed about ¾ of the guests.”

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Dinner passed, and the wedding reception began, and the maid of honour started coming around and asking a few people to follow her to the kitchen, and they all went.

“She shows us stacks of plates and cups and cups then tells us we need to wash them. Apparently, part of self-catering is you rent the dishes and glassware, and if they aren’t returned clean at the end of the evening, you lose your deposit.”

The guest and about nine others spent most of the reception in the kitchen washing dishes. “We missed the first dance and the cutting of the cake, which turns out to be for the best because (wait for it) they hadn’t purchased enough cake for everyone either.”

The couple got divorced three years later, and the guest declined the invitation to her second wedding.

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Redditors flooded the comment section to share their disappointment at the bride, with one saying, “That is INSANE. Imagine inviting a bunch of folks then having the gall to tell them a quarter of them will DELIBERATELY be left hungry. Including cake!”

Another added that she understands why the guest didn’t refuse when she was called to help in the kitchen, saying, “I’m from the South, and the cultural expectations for young women are to do always what you’re told and not make a fuss. I would’ve done the same thing at 21 – worse, I would’ve washed the dishes and then felt good about ‘helping’”

Source: Reddit

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