Bride refuses to invite fiancé’s granny to wedding party: 'I'm within my right to make this request'

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  • 'Policies' around weddings are constantly changing, from the recently popular no-kids policy, the no food but dessert only wedding policy and the dress code policy.
  • While these are changing, brides are also making weddings more comfortable for themselves, like not inviting people they don’t get along with.
  • However, one Reddit bride might have taken it too far by trying to exclude her fiancé’s last living grandmother for the same reasons she doesn’t want kids at her wedding.

Taking to Reddit to get some advice, the bride-to-be began her story by letting users know that she and her fiancé are about to get married, however, they haven’t seen eye-to-eye about his grandmother coming to the wedding.

“We’ve agreed to not have kids at our wedding, as we want the reception to be a huge party for our adult friends and family with dancing, loud music and an open bar,” she shared.

The anonymous bride-to-be continues to say this is the same reason she doesn’t want her fiancé’s elderly grandmother there.

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“I said she can come to the ceremony but not the reception. It will be extremely out of place.”

While the bride's grandparents have all passed away, her fiancé has his last living grandmother, and he is also the oldest grandchild. “This has caused a huge fight since she said she has always dreamed about being at her grandson’s wedding,” the bride shares, conceding that the granny might not live long enough to see the next family wedding.

“Which is why I said she’s more than welcome at the ceremony, but she will just be too out of place at the reception. She and he both insist that she will be fine and wants to go to the party. But I just know it will inevitably lead to us dealing with her and taking care of her, and I just want to get drunk and get loose with my friends,” says the bride.

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The grandmother is now upset with the bride and her fiancé is also angry. But there's no backing down from the bride's end.

“I think I am within my right to make this request; I am the bride after all,” she says.

Redditors wasted no time letting the bride-to-be know of their disappointment, with one saying, “The phrase ‘I am the bride all’ really sums up this request. You seem to think that because you are the bride, everyone has to bend to your whim, unreasonable or not.”

Another added, “She’s not a kid, and you won’t have to take care of her. Honestly, this could’ve been enough for me to call the wedding off. Get over yourself.”

Should the granny be allowed at the wedding, or is the bride within her rights to refuse? Tell us what you think here.

Sources: Reddit

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