- The bride does not want her stepson, who is five, at her wedding.
- She says, he is disrespectful to her and has been coached by his mother.
- As a stepmom, she has done her best to love him, but that has not worked out.
Getting married is entirely stressful. While some brides might be worried about the dress, décor or venue, one Reddit bride is stressed about a serious issue involving her stepson. Taking her frustration to social media, she says, "How do I go about telling my fiancé that I don't want his son in our wedding? Or maybe I will purposely have the date land on a week we don't have him. Am I wrong for this ?"
Her stepson is five, but their relationship is strained.
The bride-to-be says this is because his mom coaches him to be disrespectful to her. "I just don't want him at our wedding if he is going to continue to disrespect me, and I can't get over what he's gone along with for his mom in the past. He will never be loyal to me because I am not his mom, but I deserve respect," she says.
The frustration has gotten to a point where she can't do it anymore and confesses that it is getting harder to fake it. "He is blatantly rude to me due to his mom coaching him to say things and ignoring me when his mom drops him off. In the past, CPS (Child Protection Services) got involved because his mom was trying to get him to say inappropriate things about me," she says.
Other users had opinions about the matter with one saying: "I've married into a situation like this before, and a few years ago, I divorced out of it. The kid was four at the wedding. Every other weekend nowadays, I have that step-kid overnight at my place. Clearly, we grew to love each other, despite heaps of alienation and the impossible toxicity of being expected to mother a child who already has a mother. What didn't work was the relationship with a man who let this happen to me."
Another user says, "There is a tiny five-year-old boy that a bunch of adults are messing with. Worrying about her stupid wedding is the last thing that she should be focusing on. I think almost everyone should be in therapy. It is a good thing, and it helps you sort out your feelings.
"I have several acquaintances and a sister who translate their therapist's guidance as justification for their awful behaviour. Therapy is not going to fix the bride's priorities. I bet if this kid were a cat or a dog you would all be furious at her and trying to gather a posse together to go after her."
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