Bride upset as groom's gran dies days before the wedding. She says grieving in-laws may ruin the mood

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  • A bride took to Reddit to share her frustration after her husband-to-be's grandmother died just days before her wedding due to happen this weekend.
  • She understands that the loss is painful but doesn't want her in-laws causing drama as they grieve at her wedding.
  • She wonders if she is selfish and how to handle the situation.

A Reddit bride is worried that her wedding will be ruined after the groom's grandmother died two nights ago due to be held this weekend.

She took to the platform asking for advice on how to handle her in-laws grieving at the wedding.

"[My] fiancé seems to be okay with it. He has been expecting it for a year now as she has been sick. It was established she won't make it to the wedding anyways for the past six months," explained the bride.

"My [inlaws] are super emotional (from what I've been told from other family members) and tend to create theatrics. It is anticipated they will demonstrate this behavior at the wedding. This couldn't be more awful timing and now there is a giant storm cloud awaiting our special day."

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I feel terrible the grandmother, passed but it has been expected this whole time now, and I'm afraid it will cause a damper on our big day," she says. None of her grandparents is alive, but they also didn't pass days before the wedding, so she's had time to grieve. 

"This is literally the worst thing that could happen and I can honestly say I'm not looking forward to my wedding," she said.

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Some Reddit users thought the bride wasn't compassionate and called her out, to which she responded."I did not mean for my tone to sound as if it lacks compassion.

There is more detail that goes into the backstory of this that I should've included," she said, adding that the groom's family has never said anything positive to say about the deceased grandmother.

"Regardless, it is truly is a terrible thing to happen. I remember when my grandmother (moms side) passed, it was devastating, so I understand how grief can really hit you hard."

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Some users had words of comfort and said they understood the frustration that the bride was feeling.One user said the groom should handle his family on the wedding day.

"Let your fiance handle it. He should talk to them and suggest some ideas you're both okay with to honour his grandma at the wedding. An empty seat with h favourite scarf, her framed photo placed at a table, a mention of being missed during a speech.Let him gauge their reaction to that and say if you're overwhelmed during the ceremony," they suggested.

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Another user suggested a redo of the wedding if things don't work out well this weekend.

"If you are not satisfied with the ceremony this weekend, plan another. Like a destination wedding with just the 2 of you and some random person as your witness. You get through this tough spot just like all the others that you have met or will meet."

Do you think the bride has anything to worry about, or is she being inconsiderate? Tell us here.

Source: Reddit

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