- If we could talk about how many times people who weren’t the bride wore a white dress to a wedding, we could sit here forever.
- It is the number one written rule when attending a wedding.
- This bride, however, took the rule too far by getting upset at her best friend for wearing a white dress to a non-wedding related brunch with friends.
An anonymous maid of honour took to a Reddit forum to vent about her engaged best friend, Joy - of twenty years - being upset that she wore a white dress to a social event before Joy’s wedding.
“Last Sunday, Joy and I met with some of our friends for lunch. Since it was the first time seeing friends in a while and we were going to a nice restaurant, I decided to dress up a little,” the maid of honour shares.
She opted for a white linen dress as it was a hot day but says she noticed Joy giving her strange looks and only giving her short responses during the brunch.
“I brushed it off as stress, and when we got up to say goodbye, Joy left in a rush. When I got home, I had a bunch of angry texts from Joy saying she was disappointed in me and couldn’t believe I would try to ‘dull her shine during this special time’.”
Confused, the maid of honour asked the bride to elaborate, and the bride said she was furious that she dared to wear white while she wasn't the bride to be. The maid of honour then apologised but not without letting the bride know that her wearing the colour white to a casual hangout with friends wasn’t to take attention from her.
Joy still flipped out and called the maid of honour all sorts of names, including calling her an unsupportive attention-grabbing maid of honour. “I snapped a little and told her that while I respected she was getting married, that did not entitle her on a monopoly on the colour white and that while her wedding was the important thing going on in her life, it was not the most important thing going on in other people’s lives.”
The maid of honour says their friends are generally supportive of her but still insist she should make peace with Joy, as Joy is under a lot of stress. Though she hasn't apologised yet, she does feel bad for saying the wedding isn’t the most important thing in her life and asked Reddit users to weigh in.
Without hesitance, Redditors commented on the forum being supportive of the maid of honour and suggesting she drops out, with one saying, “She should drop out as MOH, let the bride try and find someone else to put up with her craziness. If she’s going to flip out about something that stupid, who knows what’s yet to come.”
Another user added, “The only time you shouldn’t wear white is at the wedding/reception unless the bride requests it. At any other event, you’re free to wear what you want. I would back out of the MOH duties and just tell her that you’re unable to fulfil the requirements you think she’ll need.”
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