Bride heartbroken that her parents would rather miss her wedding than get vaccinated

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Weddings don't always go according to plan. Photo by Getty Images
Weddings don't always go according to plan. Photo by Getty Images

When it comes to vaccinating many are still against it, however, as wedding season gets in motion, some engaged couples require attendees to vaccinate before attending.

One bride took Twitter to share that her parents would no longer be attending her wedding because they refuse to get vaccinated.

"My parents just told me they are choosing to not attend my wedding rather than be vaccinated and AAAAAAHHHHH!" she wrote on the platform.

The post went viral as Twitter users shared their thoughts. One user could relate and said: "My parents have decided not to physically see their grandkids anymore rather than get vaccinated... We offered FaceTime,  and they only did that once.  So I guess we know where their priorities are now..."

Another user offered her support, saying: "My daughter lives in Brooklyn, she’s a 3 hour drive from me. If you want a vaccinated mom & dad stand in, my husband & I will be happy to be there to be happy for you. She loans us out all the time to her friends who have parents who are…um…not like us."

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However, some users were not as kind to the bride-to-be with one saying, "You are at the point where you are requiring medical treatments of your parents in exchange for attendance at your wedding. Thinking you should dictate their medical decisions is so messed up. You being so manipulative is probably extremely hurtful to them."

Meanwhile, another user thought a bit of revenge wouldn't hurt, saying, "I'm so sorry you have to go through this,  this is so wrong on your parents part and i hope your wedding goes well despite this occurrence,  also have you thought of having someone they hate walk you down the aisle bc best revenge possible and get tons of pictures?"

Later, the bride-to-be thanked everyone who showed her support. She shared, "Thank you for all the kind words and offers of stand-in parents, best wishes and even physicians offering to speak to my parents! Even w/o the NYC vax mandate, I would want them to be vaxxed, but I am focusing on accepting what I can't change and surrounding myself & S.O. (significant other) with."

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But what can couples who are planning to get married amid Covid-19 do with regards to vaccinations to make their weddings safer? Experts, Monica and Darius Lewis, from Monica Lewis School of Etiquette answer a few questions in this regard:

Is it okay to put the statement that guests must be vaccinated on the invitation?

“You can include it, but make sure you and your partner made that agreement that this is what we want to do. Once you’ve made that agreement, then it is okay to put it on the invitation. Why? Because it is your wedding, it’s your day, you make that decision,” Monica says.

Once you have the plan for your wedding, do you need to establish areas for your guests that separate those vaccinated from those who haven’t gotten vaccinated?

“Yes, you can do that, but the basic thing is to have a plan of how you’re gonna handle your guests - those that are vaccinated and those that haven’t been vaccinated. Make sure you communicate that upfront as well so that they understand what is going to happen. Don’t make your guests guess about what your protocol is, about what your process is,” Darius says.

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Should you ask those  who got vaccinated to attend the wedding in person?

“Yes, you can tell guests, vaccines are strongly encouraged or fully vaccinated guests can attend the ceremony in person. You have to make sure that you communicate that. You can communicate the same way across multiple channels, like your wedding website, an invitation or sending a pre-recorded video to make it more personal. So on the day of your wedding, this is not new information,” Darius adds.

Is it okay to ask for negative Covid-19 test results upon arrival at the wedding?

“Yes, it is perfectly fine because you included it on the wedding invitation, website or video. But also prepare yourself for if people cannot attend the wedding. Put the same effort on the virtual as the wedding," says Monica.

Do you think the parents should vaccinate for the sake of pleasing their daughter, or should she make a compromise for her parents' sake? Tell us what you think here.

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