Father of the bride refuses to pay for wedding after religious in-laws say he shouldn't bring his husband

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  • A father on Reddit said his daughter did not want him to invite his husband to her June wedding.
  • He was supposed to pay for the wedding but changed his mind after hearing his daughter's outrageous demands.
  • The soon-to-be bride called her father selfish and inconsiderate.

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This father shared on Reddit that he's refusing to pay for his daughter's wedding after she would not invite his partner, saying it would make her religious and conservative in-laws uncomfortable.

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The father of the bride vented about his daughter's wedding on the platform. He began the post by letting readers know that his daughter is 21 years old and is about to get married in June.

"Since she was a little girl, I promised to pay for her wedding, but something happened two days ago that made me change my mind."

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The father continued to share details about his relationship with his daughter's mother, saying they were married at 18, but divorced after six years.

"We had a very amicable divorce and split custody; my daughter has always been daddy's little girl and always got along with my partner of 14 years," he added.

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In the days leading up to the wedding, his daughter shared with him a few things that she wanted for her big day, and one was that her father's husband was not allowed to attend the event as her in-laws are religious and conservative.

Her father agreed as it was her big day. The bride added that her father's two-year-old son could also not attend as no kids would be allowed at the wedding.

Her last demand threw him off. "I can't talk about my 'lifestyle' because she doesn't want to make her in-laws uncomfortable," he wrote.

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He subsequently refused to pay for the wedding. "I told her that if her in-laws are so important, they should pay for the whole wedding.

"She got mad at me, called me a child and said if I keep on with this attitude, she will ask her father-in-law to walk her down the aisle."

The father made it clear that he would not pay for the wedding if his family was not invited.

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Reddit users quickly jumped on the comment section to support the him, with one writing: "She is trying to please her in-laws, and they should pay. Not bring your spouse to the wedding because you are of the same sex is wrong, and I would not consider going."

Another suggested that the daughter displayed homophobic behaviour. "She's choosing to be homophobic over her family. It's never acceptable to choose bigotry over anything."


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