‘I booked the same wedding venue as my sister, but earlier so I'd get married there first, here's why'

accreditation
0:00
play article
Subscribers can listen to this article
Illustration photo by Getty Images
Illustration photo by Getty Images
  • Sibling rivalry can lead to big fights and jealousy, especially when parents choose sides.
  • A Reddit bride-to-be feels distant from her family because her parents are always on her sister's side.
  • Her sister got engaged right after her and booked her dream venue.


A bride-to-be felt overshadowed by her sister because she got engaged right after her and booked her dream venue. But she stepped up and took action to give herself the wedding of her dreams by booking the same venue as her sister.

In her post, she mentioned that her parents have always shown favouritism toward her 'much prettier' sister, which left her feeling distant.

“I can admit that my viewpoint is pretty one-sided, but my actions have divided my family, so I figured I could get some outside perspective,” she shared.

“My sister and I don't get along. I can be honest and admit that she's much prettier than me, and that's something she's never let me forget. Both of my parents are pretty shallow, and they've always given her the best and put her first.”

READ MORE | Bride furious at bridesmaids after they refuse to pay for bridal shower - 'They are selfish'

She explained that this left her bitter and distant from her family.

“My boyfriend of five years recently proposed, and I was super over-the-moon. And straight out of a bad rom-com script, my sister got engaged right afterward. It didn't really faze me other than serving as a slight nuisance since my parents were more happy and involved with her engagement,” says the woman.

“Don't feel bad for me, though, because my mother-in-law is a godsend and super sweet and genuinely treats me with so much love.”

She said what really pushed her over the edge was when her sister told her that she had booked her wedding at her dream venue.

“I know it sounds so annoying and cheesy, but I really cared about this location. It was sentimental to me, and I've talked about wanting to get married there as far back as high school when I was just daydreaming,” she says.

“When I brought it up, my parents told me to stop being so petty. In a fit of actual pettiness, I ended up booking the same venue a month before my sister's wedding. I checked with the venue, and there's no way my sister can move the wedding up (they're booked up), and if she changes venues, she'll lose her deposit.”

READ MORE | ‘She tested positive for Covid and still wanted to have the wedding’ - weddings that ended friendships

Fellow Reddit users felt that the 'pretty' sister was being petty. One commented: “I see how you would be wrong to book the venue once you knew she had. But she booked ‘your’ venue first. She knew you wanted to get married there. So why would she book it in the first place? She seems very self-involved, and your parents are encouraging her.

“If I was you, I would just cut my losses. Don’t engage with your sister anymore. I would just say the truth when people ask/ yell at you. That you had dreamed of that venue for your whole life and she decided to book it. Why would you give up your dream for someone? Let alone someone you don’t even like.” 

Another user commented, "You were going to book that wedding venue anyway. Sure, you booked the earlier date out of spite, but I find it hard to believe your sister wasn't doing the same. I also hope you're not planning on inviting any of them to your wedding however, that's on you, and you should do what makes you the happiest on your and your fiancé's big day."

Source: Reddit

What do you think of what the sister did? Tell us here.

Follow us on social media: FacebookTwitterInstagram.

Sign up to W24's newsletters so you don't miss out on any of our stories and giveaways.

We live in a world where facts and fiction get blurred
In times of uncertainty you need journalism you can trust. For 14 free days, you can have access to a world of in-depth analyses, investigative journalism, top opinions and a range of features. Journalism strengthens democracy. Invest in the future today. Thereafter you will be billed R75 per month. You can cancel anytime and if you cancel within 14 days you won't be billed. 
Subscribe to News24
Voting Booth
Do you think it's important to get married in this day and age?
Please select an option Oops! Something went wrong, please try again later.
Results
Yes, it's important in order to create a family unit and for companionship
22% - 694 votes
Not at all. Being single is far more liberating
9% - 286 votes
There is no general answer to this, it's each to their own
50% - 1579 votes
Yes, society still frowns on unmarried people, especially women
1% - 41 votes
It depends on whether you are able to find a compatible partner
18% - 562 votes
Vote