'I sued the bride for kicking me out of her bridal party after I cut my hair'

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  • A bridesmaid took to Reddit to ask if she was being difficult for taking her friend to court to claim damages after a fight over the wedding attire.
  • The bridesmaid shared that she had to cut her hair shortly before the wedding due to a health condition, but the bride had planned other hairstyles for her 3-day wedding.
  • Both women were unable to find a resolution to the issue. Hence the bridesmaid headed to court to claim reimbursement for the money she had already spent on her wedding attire.

A bridesmaid took to Reddit to ask if it was difficult for taking her friend to court for damages after falling out over her wedding.

The bridesmaid bought three different dresses, including alterations and shoes, totalling $700 (about R10 500) for the wedding before the two fell out. The bride had also requested specific hairstyles for each day.

"Unfortunately, starting in March, my hair started to deteriorate. Due to health reasons, my hair was falling out in chunks, and in May, I made the difficult decision to cut my hair. I told the bride about my decision two weeks before the wedding and she didn't say anything bad," says the bridesmaid.

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The following week the two women spent time together at the bridesmaid's house. When the bride was about to leave, she brought up that she was concerned about the bridesmaid's haircut.

"I told her it would look good even though I wouldn't be uniform with the other bridesmaids," says the bridesmaid.

On the following day, however, the bridesmaid received this message from the bride:

"After our recent conversations, I'd like to remind you of my boundaries: I've been very accommodating and graceful, but I can't allow you to disrespect me. As you know, my wedding has been something I've dreamt of for many years. (Husband) and I have invested a lot of money into the video and photos of this day, and as we reflect on this day in the future, we want to see our vision reflected in the memories," said the message.

Since I asked each of you to be a bridesmaid in 2019, I've been very clear and very communicative in my request. The timing of your decision to cut your hair and not income in advance is very upsetting to me. I would have felt respected if you had communicated with me more than a week prior to the wedding, so we could have worked together to find a collaborative solution."

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The incident happened three days before the wedding and the bridesmaid immediately sent the bride and her husband an invoice asking them to reimburse for the dresses and shoes. 

"Neither of them replied, so I decided to take it to court. I was told I was inconsistent and selfish after I spent the past two weeks helping her plan the wedding shower. I worked with another bridesmaid to surprise her with a bridal shower after our bachelorette trip had to be cancelled," shared the bridesmaid. 

"When I agreed to be her bridesmaid, I was more than willing to oblige with what she asked even if at times it was a lot of time and money. So am I the asshole for taking her to court because she kicked me out for cutting my hair?"

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Reddit users came out with their opinions on the situation. One suggested that the bride's visions should not be more important than her friend's health. "I've always wondered if this kind of person doesn't realize that what they'll remember most about their wedding when they see the pictures is the friend that's no longer there and there and the ugliness that ended that friendship. The minute they do something like this, the "vision" is destroyed," they said.

Another user said, "I genuinely hope the wedding crashes and burns."

Do you think going to the courts to claim damages was the correct route to take in this situation? Tell us about it here.

Source: Reddit

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