'My in-laws renewed their vows at our wedding, and hid the plan from me until the night before'

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Volodymyr Nadtochii
  • There are many unwritten rules about weddings, and some are unwritten because they are really obvious.
  • Some of these include never wearing white to a wedding as a guest, you never arrive after the bride has walked down the aisle, and the most important one is never to use someone’s wedding to make a big announcement about your life, like pregnancy or popping the question.
  • One Reddit bride learnt the hard way that what seems obvious to some people, may not be so to others when her parents-in-law renewed their vows at her wedding.

The new American bride took to Reddit to vent about her in-laws, beginning the story by saying, “So my fiancé and I had an extremely small wedding during Covid (12 people from nuclear families and five close family friends) where everyone was vaccinated and outdoors.

"We’ve been together for four years and haven’t been able to get married because I would’ve lost my health insurance for my parents, thanks America.”

She continues to say that her father-in-law had a previous conversation with her husband about his parents renewing their vows at her wedding. The father in law insisted that the bride should not be told about this.

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“The night before the wedding, my Fiancé asked me if I would be OK if his parents renewed their vows at our wedding. He said he felt weird about it, but his dad promised to keep it on the DL and even told my husband not to tell me,” shares the bride.

At first, the bride was put off by the idea of sharing her big day with her in-laws but then considered that the venue is where the parents got married thirty years ago.

“They asked my dad, who was our officiant, to renew the vows for them. My father was the one performing our ceremony, and he seemed uncomfortable with the situation but has difficulty saying ‘no’ (also father-in-law is not the type to listen to someone say no).”

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The parents used all their decorations from the wedding ceremony and took the bride’s father away from celebrating his wedding day with his daughter so they can renew their vows. More so, the parents have done this before at someone else’s wedding.

“My husband and I figured out a few weeks later evidently they pulled the same thing at his brother’s wedding years ago. That’s TWICE; they renewed their vows at someone else’s wedding!!! Ugh, some people,” says the bride.

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Redditors flooded the comment section expressing their shock at the parents’ behaviours, with one saying, “Twice? That’s not about the sentiment anymore. Didn’t your husband remember it happened at his brother’s wedding too? Watch your family in law and husband closely because this is a power play, and your husband could do a little more to protect the both of you.”

Another added a suggestion, “Wow, that’s amazing. If they wanted to have attention, they should just have their own ceremony where people can fawn over them the whole time like they clearly desire.”

Do you think what the parents-in-law did is okay? Would you allow it? Do you have a wedding story to share with us? Tell us here.

Source: Reddit

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