My mother wanted my wedding to be a redo of hers and it made my wedding planning hell

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  • Every girl's dream is to have their mother by their side when planning the wedding, but it was the opposite for Penny*.
  • The Quora user shares how her mother made the wedding planning a complete nightmare for her.
  • Here's her story as shared on Quora.

"She wanted to redo her wedding, even going as far as to announce that she was mad that no-one wanted to do anything she wanted," Penny says.

Penny's mother would throw tantrums over everything, like the dress shopping.

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"She ripped me to shreds over it, to the point I was bawling. Another mom at the store tore into her, while I was in the dressing room," Penny shares, adding that a similar incident when her mom and mom-in-law went looking at flowers for the wedding.

"She (Penny's mother) was an hour late for the appointment and screamed at me in front of my mother-in-law for going ahead with the appointment without her. Never gave me a reason why she was late," Penny shares.

Then, Penny's mother was not happy about the venue for the reception and the idea of having a small wedding. She wanted to add more people to the guest list even though this venue had a very special meaning in Penny and her husband’s relationship.

"She tried all sorts of underhanded tactics to get what she wanted, including uninviting my husband and I to Christmas," Penny remembers.

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Penny’s sister was just like the mother.

“My sister didn’t want to get the very flattering bridesmaid dress, as she wanted to buy a dress that she wanted to wear on a cruise that wasn’t flattering on my sister-in-law. My mom insisted we go with my sister’s pick, but I refused, as I wanted everyone to look nice,” Penny says.  

"To this day, having a relationship with her (the mother) is difficult for me. I want her approval so bad, but I know it’s never going to happen,” she adds.

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*Not her real name. Source: Quora

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